No children of my own yet but I come from a large extended family
dummy - I've seen it with my own family, over protective mother for the the first child (dummy gets taken away and sterilised) to by the time the last child has come along a dust-off and offered back (with immediate family I've sucked the dummy to clean it and hand it back if no water was around to rinse it off - please note this was with immediate family only)
food - I'd ask them not to, gently take it away from the child if it has been given, it isn't the child's fault so shouldn't be made to feel bad about taking it, then explain (sometimes in very strong forceful words ) that it isn't acceptable
nicknames - I go on what the family uses
older child sick around bub - depends on what the child has & the health of bub
disciplining - if it is friend's kids, then I've got a pretty good idea of what is acceptable behaviour (usually from watching or asking) so I discipline to their standards, if it is some other child doing something wrong (say punching, biting etc), I remove the children in my charge away from that child and explain to the children in my charge that the behaviour wasn't acceptable, of course if it was an emergency type situation (hands going somewhere dangerous, I'd step in)
Last edited by Sopdet; August 26th, 2010 at 10:16 PM.
- people putting a dummy back in your child's mouth (but you can see they just touched the bit that goes in their mouth and you know they didn't just wash their hands) Just take it straight away when you see ehats happening and give bub a new one ( We never used Dummies anyway)
- offering your child food you don't want them to have (Just say they arent old enough/ allowed to have it , you are the parent
- playfully teasing them in a way that they think is ok (no malice intended) but that you aren't ok with (eg playfully calling a chubby kid 'fatty' or something like that) : Childs name is not fat hes s big boy like his Dad, Or Shes not chubby shes curvy like mum etc Change a negative for a positive
- letting their older children touch a baby when they are sick etc - Just keep them away
- disciplining your child ( Alot of people wont discipline someones else child and if they know you and you dont discipline then they should respect your limits on that. We dont discipline or punish and when Nanny (my mum) says shes going to smack him ........I always say then mummy will smack Nanna because Smacking is naughty And Nanna gets the point... until next time
) that it isn't acceptable
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