Yes, I have learnt the hard way never to depend on people when it comes to parties. I don't know how many children's parties I have hosted that involved rsvping and only a few said they could come... the rest just turned up on the day!!! Lucky I over cater.

These days i assume that no one will come or everyone will come. I only buy food that i can freeze and use myself if no one comes.

I am feeling more and more old fashioned every day. Yes, if I say I will be somewhere I actually am unless I am majorly ill, death in family, or another extreme unexpected occurance crops up.

Actually when i think about it most of my real friends are this way as well, regardless of age.

ETA: oh and I don't chase people up... if they haven't told me one way or another then they can run the risk of upsetting me... I'm not going to beg.... it's their loss.