do you think she'll still be so inclined to pop in if you're working? what i do if i don't want people to pop over is to suggest i visit them. you could do the same (although not as often as she visits you!) and that way you can take the girls (if you want to) but your DH doesn't have to go. plus you get to decide what time suits you. do you think that would work? (that's if you want to visit her!) it's one way to stop people from being offended & means you can reiterate the point that it's so much easier to you to do the visiting (and even make it about making sure it's when the girls are awake & happy rather than tired)
The more I think about it the more I think I'm just gonna have to be honest?
My Turn- Your suggestions are great but I can hear Aunty sayin *&^K off...lol...shes is abit too angry to be soo sweet to lol
Forshellby- LOL at lock the door and hide. I thought of that but I think the girls would blow my cover...LOL.
Aunty doesnt visit to spend time with the girls. She comes in and basically craps on about how rude the lady at safeway is, how much of a ***** the driver in the green car was....IYGWIM. She doesnt come to see us, she comes to whinge ( I think).
DH isnt going to sit and talk to her, so maybe if she did keep on popping over when Im not home- she will just think DH is being rude and not come back???
Answer the door in your dressing gown with your hair all mussed up and face red. Say to her "Aunty, nice to see you but now is REALLY not a good time" whilst trying to stifle giggles.
Might embarrass her enough to get the hint that popping in unannounced may just get more than she bargained for
then I reckon go with Cranky Kitten's option! This amuses me just thinking about it....
seriously though.... as long as you are polite to her, the way SHE CHOOSES to take it, is NOT your problem... you have done your best, and you can't keep letting her have HER way..! it's your home and you are entitled to live there without worrying about unexpected visitors!
what about... "I love catching up with you, but we are going to have to plan it better, because I'm finding the drop in's to difficult"
just don't take responsibility for HER feelings - as long as you are doing your best to be polite - it is her responsibility to manage herself.... and if she can't take what she dishes out herself... well then.... that's her problem too!!
It's a hard one. I dislike the 'honest' approach as I hate the thought of hurting someone's feelings, but it's not a workable situation for you. I think you will just have to bite the bullet and risk offending...
FWIW, my MIL has started her drop in's again after years of not doing it. Problem is, she lives 45 mins away, so it's obviously well planned. We've NEVER put her off if she asks to visit, but when she just pops in, it's ALWAYS a bad time. We've done the 'we're just on our way out' thing before, but that's hard when it's nap time. We've also been guilty of hiding! If we try and plan a time, SHE'S always too busy or not coming this way, but she can't just phone first....
I think the best thing to do is plan a time, even if it changes each week. If she just wants a whinge, she may be lonely and it'd be nice for her to think you're making time especially for her. But Myturn is right, you can't take responsibility for how she reacts, as long as you're polite, that's as much as you can do. GL
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