do you think she'll still be so inclined to pop in if you're working? what i do if i don't want people to pop over is to suggest i visit them. you could do the same (although not as often as she visits you!) and that way you can take the girls (if you want to) but your DH doesn't have to go. plus you get to decide what time suits you. do you think that would work? (that's if you want to visit her!) it's one way to stop people from being offended & means you can reiterate the point that it's so much easier to you to do the visiting (and even make it about making sure it's when the girls are awake & happy rather than tired)