If your asked to be in a bridal party? Dress, Hair, Make up, jewellery, lingere to go with the dress? Do you still give a gift on top of this???
I'm curious to know as one of my bridesmaids is cranky because i paid for her hair, make up and jewellery for my wedding. I did this because I felt like I should do it. I didn't expect any gifts, however she and her DF chose to give something.
Did I do things the wrong way? I don't want her to pay anything now if i have done...just curious to know.. should they have paid for all this?
I know alot of people expect their bridal party to pay for at least some things.
Personally, I chose to pay for everything for my bridesmaids and the groomsmen including suit hire, dresses, makeup and hair. My bridesmaids already had shoes and jewellery they could wear so neither of us had to buy that. One of my bridesmaids still bought us a present and my other bridesmaid (my sister mind you) didn't get us anything (not even a card!). The best man also bought us a present. Even my mum and dad didn't buy us a present (a whole other vent!).
I don't think you've done anything the wrong way. If I was asked to be a bridesmaid, I would assume that I would need to pay for my outfit, hair and makeup unless the bride said otherwise. And yes I would still get a present even if it was just something small.
It is up to you. I think it is not automatically assumed that the bridesmaid will cover their own dresses etc as the bride often chooses the outfit and the costs can run high. I gave my bridesmaids dress material and some money to get the dress made but in the end they paid a little bit too. I also paid for their makeup etc. I think especially if you want everything to be 'just so' ie you want them to wear specific lingerie then getting them to pay is a bit much. Not sure why she is cranky that you paid? I understand if she feels a little uncomfortable but is she actually angry?
There are so many ways people do it these days I don't think there is a hard and fast rule. DH and I haven't had a formal wedding yet but if/when we do I would pay for the dresses/make-up/hair etc. Maybe ask the bridesmaids to buy their shoes and pay for any little extras like a spray tan etc. On top of that I would give each bridesmaid a small gift of thanks. In return I would expect them to do a proper job of actually helping me to organise the whole thing!!! I hear so many stories of bridesmaids just kinda going along for the ride and being too busy to help the bride look at reception halls/book flowers/ organise the cake etc.
I also wouldn't expect them to buy me a wedding gift. If they did that would be up to them... it wouldn't be expected.
My Bridesmaids didn't buy me a wedding gift and I didn't expect them to either. I figured them being a part of my wedding and paying for their outfits was enough.
My 3 bridesmaids all paid for there dresses, shoes, hair and make up. I bought then jewlerry for the day as a gift.
All groomsman paid for own suit hire and we gave them cufflinks as a gift and to wear on day.
I have so far been bridesmaid 3 times abd have always paid for everything myself and for 2 was given jewlerry to wear as gift. DH been in 2 weddings and paid own hire of suit, at 1 they were give ties to wear on day.
I am bridesmaid in march for brother and SIL to be and paid for own dress etc and will be paying for hair and make up and she has bought jewlerry and hair clips for all.
All my bridesmaids paid for was thier dress and thier shoes. I paid everything else, but per my other thread had a bridesmaid that didn't agree with me paying everything else. So was curious to see what other people though.
The plan was I would pay for the bridesmaids dresses - until they we stuffed up by the dress maker the weekend before the wedding (we palnned the wedding in 5 weeks, so no time left for more dresses) and we went shopping. The dressmaker refused to refund my money so had none left. The girls bought their own bridesmaid dresses, cost $180 each from Myer (BARGAIN!! lol)
My sis, one of the BMs did their hair.
I paid for their makeup ($85 each) There were 3 BMs
I bought their jewellery as part of their BM gifts.
They also bought their own shoes for the dresses because they liked them adn can wear them again with the dresses, they were $100 each.
None of the BMs got me presents, except for my sister, who helped buy my wedding dress as the present But the other 2 were not in a financial position to and I didnt expect them too.
WRT to lingerie - they required strapless bras, which they all had anyway, but no, I would not have bought lingerie for them anyway!! - just like I didnt by them matching handbags! lol
I think your BM should be grateful you paid for everything!
What do you expect to pay for??
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But the other 2 were not in a financial position to and I didnt expect them too.
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