The plan was I would pay for the bridesmaids dresses - until they we stuffed up by the dress maker the weekend before the wedding (we palnned the wedding in 5 weeks, so no time left for more dresses) and we went shopping. The dressmaker refused to refund my money so had none left. The girls bought their own bridesmaid dresses, cost $180 each from Myer (BARGAIN!! lol)

My sis, one of the BMs did their hair.

I paid for their makeup ($85 each) There were 3 BMs

I bought their jewellery as part of their BM gifts.

They also bought their own shoes for the dresses because they liked them adn can wear them again with the dresses, they were $100 each.

None of the BMs got me presents, except for my sister, who helped buy my wedding dress as the present But the other 2 were not in a financial position to and I didnt expect them too.

WRT to lingerie - they required strapless bras, which they all had anyway, but no, I would not have bought lingerie for them anyway!! - just like I didnt by them matching handbags! lol

I think your BM should be grateful you paid for everything!