Is there a polite way to do this?

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I detest character stuff, so Mum and Sis buy DS loads of that crap. SiL does a bit too. I just have to grin and bear it, as DS loves it. I do make sure they stay hidden from public view in DS's bedroom as much as possible though!

I don't do big parties, and if people want to know what DS likes I tell them he likes Brio, Duplo (the best plastic toy!)... stuff we already have, but they can add to. That way it takes up a bit less room. I also say we have no money so clothes are a great option; just plain clothes with no characters. (We now have characters on PJs, undies and socks... and I still hate them!)

I used to have wooden toys in the living room and plastic in the bedroom - but then realised DS loved some of those plastic ones, so I mix them up a bit now. We have a plastic toolbench in the sitting room and the wooden ones in his room: he adores the plastic one with the battery-powered drill. Can't win them all! Just have to be wooden-only and no characters for my grandchildren.

[Fleur]

I don't think there's anything wrong with putting a note in the invitation saying something along the lines of 'DD has loads of toys and would really like ...' I wouldn't be offended by that?

[Tinks]

Maybe you should put 'No Presents' on the invite. Or word your mum up to ring the people she knows and ask for money to be put towards a group gift.