Hi all

DH's grandparents are in their 90's and just recently been moved into a nursing home. Today we got a phone call from DH's mum to say that the nursing home dr has said that DH's grandfather has around 3-4 days left.

I'm confused at to what my role is and how I should handle things in the time to come, and am in need of some help.

DH is an only child. Its his mum's dad. DH's family has a strong maternal role, where the women seem to take charge, and deal with everything. MIL is highly stressed (which very normal, shes that kind of person!), and she is her parents power of attorney.

It may sound strange, but I know that they have lived a great life, and I am saddened to think that they won't be around much longer, and I cannot handle the idea of death even so.
So today instead of a normal reaction, I realise that DH will play a part in the funeral, so I had better get his suit dry cleaned. I need outfits for the girls to wear, something for me to wear. I should be making meals for DH parents and so on.....

So suppose what I am asking is: what do you think is the role of the 'in-law' in this scenario?


Thank you

Justine