i didnt knwo wat to title this as so sorry if it didnt sound right lol.

One of Dh' s friends has got engaged to the most selfish person i have ever met and no one really get along with her. so she has decided that she wants to go married overseas and expects everyone to pay 3k per person to attend the wedding. we have already said we r unable to attend because we didnt even spend 6k on our whole wedding (which we paid for everything for the bridal party)
BUT my whole point to this post is Dh's best friend has been asked to be the best man and he feels as if no matter where the wedding is he has to go. Dh's best friend is way worse off financially then us and he has also just got engaged and is thinkin he will put his wedding off for a bit now cause he will have to pay to go to this other wedding.

Do you think it is rude to expect someone to pay 3k just on flights and accomodation to be best man when they know that persons financial stituation?