That is not on and you are right to feel put out. It is especially not fair to put guilt on you. It is one thing to have your dream wedding - and if that be OS all good - but another thing to expect everyone else to have to pay exorbitant amounts for you to have your dream.
I had a friend get married OS a few years ago BUT it was very reasonably done. Firstly they invited everyone saying we would love it if you can come but completely understand if it is not possible. They let everyone know there would be a party back home in Australia when they return for those who couldn't come to help them celebrate. Plus, they chose a reasonably 'cheap' location and negotiated some pretty good deals for guests. 20 people ended up making it including family and we had an absolutely awesome time with a week holiday together before the wedding. The whole no pressure thing really worked and I think the whole trip cost me about a grand. They also insisted no presents.
[Actually - When I consider how much some weddings I have been to here can cost when I need to get a new dress/shoes, sort out babysitting, travel away for a night, get present, be involved in hens night/bucks night etc, I think the OS holiday was great value!!]
And if he knows you cant afford it he could have offered half of the money.
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