that's a lot of money!! would you enjoy it though?

if it's something you'd really enjoy, then I'd go, but probably without DH (though I'd organise another time to go with him).

it would annoy me that your friend isn't really helping out by not updating you on the girls only status, or the cost a lot earlier on!!

but if I wanted to do the activity, and I could scrape together the money, I'd probably still go ... it might be the case however that my participation and maybe a drink for her was effectively my prezzie!!

but if it wasn't something I was ok spending the cash on, I'd organise coffee and a gift instead ...