Oh I'm glad I'm not the only one to feel this way! I was imagining coming back from dinner/bath/everything and being told I'm an ungrateful cow who should suck it up and appreciate my family

Christmas this year will be easier, DH's family has opted for kids presents only. Though MIL is very handy and tends to make us a little knick knack type thing. I've suggested to my family that we do the Secret Santa type thing for ages now, but my Mum is really big on the gifts, she gives to everyone - even those she doesn't know well. This year my brother and his fiancee are on board as they're saving for their wedding and buying a house. I might suggest your way OP, we did that at work once and it was loads of fun