Wishing well at a wedding etiquette?

[little_O]

If the couple want the amount they spend on the guests, maybe they should ask people to pay their own way. It annoys me when couples expect a certain amount of money from people. I thought weddings were about celebrating a life event with friends and family, not a money making scheme. ....sorry, just a little vent.

I don't know of any couples that expect a certain amount? I certainly didn't. As guest though that's the guide we use.

[meow]

We had no expectations as to cash values when we had a wishing well for our wedding. We used to spend about $50 as a couple but after the amounts we received we increased it and now we generally give $100 as a couple. Some people gave us about $20 and that was fine too. Whatever. I certainly wasn't actually intending to recoup the cost of the wedding.