This is a tough one. I haven't been to a wedding in a long time that DIDN'T have a wishing well - maybe it's our generation?

I generally give approx $100 per head, so if it's DH and I - $200-250 (depending on how close we are to the couple).

Very close friends (DS's godparents) of ours are getting married next week. The venue they are going to is approx $200/head... It's their prerogative to go to such an expensive venue, so I don't think they expect people to 'repay' them. Having said that, DS is the page boy and they have bought him an outfit, including shoes etc, and we are very close, so we will be giving them $500.

I do think it all gets a bit much, particularly when you've been invited to everything leading up to the wedding:
- Engagement $250
- Hens Night $100
- Buck's weekend $800 (thankfully DH didn't go)
- Kitchen tea $120
- New dress, shoes etc $350

At the end of the day, you give what you can and what you want to.
We had a flight centre registry for our wedding (rather than a wishing well), so people either put money on that or gave us cash and we didn't judge amounts we were given. We were pretty thrilled to get anything!