Can you be alone?

[~Phoenix~]

I'm another that enjoys time to myself, I had never done it until I split with exH and then spent 5 years on my own until meeting DH.

DH is a FIFO worker I miss him like crazy and when he's home we are pretty much joined at the hip but I do love that time when he's away, DD has gone to bed and I can just do whatever I want, eat what I want, leave the dishes if I want and starfish across the whole bed

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I don't think that saying "I miss DH when he's away" is the answer. You either enjoy alone time or you don't. Missing your OH has nothing to do with it. I know my sister hates alone time - not because she would miss her DH (though she would do), just because she hates being alone.

I love alone time. Does that mean I don't miss DH? Of course not. But I do know that if something happened to either one of us, we can both cope alone and can both do everything we need to around the house. Not like PiL, who are only alone when the other is in hospital (and that is horrid alone, not nice alone, I don't like that sort of alone) and FiL can't work any of the kitchen appliances - and is proud of that. MiL can't drive and lives too far from the shops to walk. It's not going to be fun if anything happens to one of them.

[Kazzo]

I get what you mean. (If, hopefully it doesn't) but something did ever happen to DH, I know I would be fine by myself. Unless there is a big spider, I would have to get help but that what neighbours are for right.

[Heaven]

No, I don't really like being alone. I mean for a couple of hours for some me time then great! But even though I could have the opportunity to do that most weekends if I wanted I am much more likely to choose spending time with DH and the girls over alone time. I get bored and lonely.

[Rouge]

I don't think that saying "I miss DH when he's away" is the answer. You either enjoy alone time or you don't. Missing your OH has nothing to do with it. I know my sister hates alone time - not because she would miss her DH (though she would do), just because she hates being alone.

I love alone time. Does that mean I don't miss DH? Of course not. But I do know that if something happened to either one of us, we can both cope alone and can both do everything we need to around the house. Not like PiL, who are only alone when the other is in hospital (and that is horrid alone, not nice alone, I don't like that sort of alone) and FiL can't work any of the kitchen appliances - and is proud of that. MiL can't drive and lives too far from the shops to walk. It's not going to be fun if anything happens to one of them.

I used the example because I do love spending time with my husband and I do love alone time I have heaps of friends who can't stand spending lots of time with their partners, however they hate alone time. I think in some circumstances it's mutually exclusive

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I think I must just be a bit grumpy atm: I was feeling a bit like "if you love being alone and your DH going away for a couple of nights you obviously don't love him enough" from various posts in here.

I love spending time with my family - but that wasn't the question. And I have taught too many exam classes these last two years clearly!

[Rouge]

Nahhhh.

And for the record the friends I was talking about ADORE their partners

[chody47]

I don't think that saying "I miss DH when he's away" is the answer. You either enjoy alone time or you don't. Missing your OH has nothing to do with it. .

If using this as the 'criteria', then yes, I love alone time. I love it when I finally get some time to myself. But, to be honest, I often struggle to know what to do with myself as I'm not used to it these days, and will become even more 'not used to it' once DD2 arrives I'm sure.