Oh babe. Unfortunately there are some people out there like that.
I have friends that are like that where i'm always the one making the effort.
Do you play any sports etc where you could make some new friends? Maybe it's a mtter of finding new circles of friends with similar interests? Probably not much help i know.
Hey thanks for your advise, I'm still in the process of finding people that enjoy the same things I do.. Everyone I find that enjoys my hobbies are always at least 20 yrs older than me.
I guess I could join a group though, I might try the local areas to see if anything is available for me.
Thanks again.
Hye Poopie,
I too suffer foot-in-mouth at times. Personally, I think being a nerd is cool, so I don't really 'get' why your friend is bugged at you.
Do try to repair the friendship & even if it can't be done the whole way to start with. Some things take time, and maybe time apart can help. Offer your friend a deep apology & tell them how much they mean to you, then leave it with them. Try no to judge their reaction too much.
Hey entreat,
I have apologized many times, but she says were 'cool' but prefers it if we no longer talk to each other for the best. I really dont understand how that means we are 'cool'
She does have a very foul mouth and it was starting to really offend me anyway, she wouldn't listen when I tell her to stop the swearing. Its made me really down, I feel like now that if I say something to anybody then I'll be doing wrong again. Sometimes I think I'm better off without friends because there would be less people that would end up hating me.
My hobbies include sewing, gardening and papercrafts. Not your average 22 yr old hobby, but people I meet my age are still into the night clubs and such and that has never interested me.
I have no advice, I am the same as you lol
I just found a couple of great friends and have stuck with them, when I try and make new friends, I just seem to embarrass myself or something. *shrug*
*hugs* I hope you and your friend sort out your issues
Sounds to me that there is something else going on there. As hard as it is, probably best just to walk away for the moment.
Another one here who has a tendancy to put my foot in it. For some reason if person A says a joke, everyone laughs, but if I was to say the same thing it would be wrong. Over time I have gotten better, but I still stuff up. It just takes practice and that means being around others. I would not worry about the age difference of people who do the same hobbies as you, people who are older can be great to hang around with and you can learn so much from them. You may come across someone who was just like you and maybe be able to help you with your social skills.
I thought sewing was becoming trendier amongst the younger generations, so you may be in luck going to a sewing class to meet up with others. Also look at other aspects of sewing. Do you like costumes? If so then you could look at joining a costuming guild, a theatre group or a historical group. Think outside the square.
Maybe check out local neighbourhood houses or community centres?
How bout your hubby's friends partners? What are they like? I've made a couple good friends thru Df's mates partners.
As for people being older if you get along with them I wouldn't worry, majority of my friends are about 7-11 years older than me (couple 16 yrs older) I seem to get along better with them than those my own age.
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