I agree that swimming, kindergym and story time are good in theory but sometimes not so great in practice for making friends. I've been to all of them and haven't made any friends though it's still nice to go, get out of the house and have a bit of chit chat.
I definitely think that asking the kids for a playdate is the way to go. Playgrounds can sometimes be good if you hit it off with someone.
Does your community have a neighbourhood house? Maybe there is something you could be involved with there as a volunteer.
Totally get how hard it is when your partner is a shiftworker - mine is too and it makes joining committees with evening meetings etc. very difficult. I think I'm going to just bite the bullet and join some things and get a babysitter if need be. I can't permanently put my life on hold because of DP's shifts.
Oh mate I can sympathise totally.
Are your DH's team mates social? I've made some great friends from the 'wives of...'
Maybe you guys could organise a team BBQ or something?
We met heaps of people through the CFA, and it works for shift work families too (DH is a shift worker). There are all sorts of jobs, not just firefighting.
I am actually going for a weekend away with some of the wives from DHs work in august. But they are all spread out about 40 mins in every direction. I just don't have anyone here (or close surrounding towns) that I am close with. It bums me the most doing school pick up and pretty much standing on my own. Said hi to some mums today. They said hi back, but went on with their own conversations. So I didn't say anything else. I have taken to sitting in the car till the last possible second.
I don't think there are any other BB's here in Gisborne.
I have asked DS who he wants to invite over, and go from there. I have also invited one of te swimming mums over for her DD to have a play. Our DDs will be in school together.
Reply With Quote
I can sympathise totally.
Bookmarks