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  1. #1
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    I agree that swimming, kindergym and story time are good in theory but sometimes not so great in practice for making friends. I've been to all of them and haven't made any friends though it's still nice to go, get out of the house and have a bit of chit chat.

    I definitely think that asking the kids for a playdate is the way to go. Playgrounds can sometimes be good if you hit it off with someone.

    Does your community have a neighbourhood house? Maybe there is something you could be involved with there as a volunteer.

    Totally get how hard it is when your partner is a shiftworker - mine is too and it makes joining committees with evening meetings etc. very difficult. I think I'm going to just bite the bullet and join some things and get a babysitter if need be. I can't permanently put my life on hold because of DP's shifts.

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    Mar 2004
    Sparta
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    It is a total pain not being able to commit because your of DH's work.

    Maybe ask some children home for playdates at yours so you can spend some time with their Mums.

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    Oh mate I can sympathise totally.
    Are your DH's team mates social? I've made some great friends from the 'wives of...'
    Maybe you guys could organise a team BBQ or something?

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    Oct 2007
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    Just wondering if you might want to post the area you live in and maybe there might be some BBers close by interested in meeting you

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    Oct 2007
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    We met heaps of people through the CFA, and it works for shift work families too (DH is a shift worker). There are all sorts of jobs, not just firefighting.

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    May 2007
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    I am actually going for a weekend away with some of the wives from DHs work in august. But they are all spread out about 40 mins in every direction. I just don't have anyone here (or close surrounding towns) that I am close with. It bums me the most doing school pick up and pretty much standing on my own. Said hi to some mums today. They said hi back, but went on with their own conversations. So I didn't say anything else. I have taken to sitting in the car till the last possible second.
    I don't think there are any other BB's here in Gisborne.
    I have asked DS who he wants to invite over, and go from there. I have also invited one of te swimming mums over for her DD to have a play. Our DDs will be in school together.

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    I'm in Woodend so just up the road. We go to the Gisborne playground quite regularly - happy to meet up