What a blessing is this thread! LTTTC produces such complex grief, not least as some of you have said the grief of others not understanding/respecting/holding us in our grief. But that's what this thread does...! Thank you n2l for posting it.
I think for me (1st ever bfp 3.5wks ago) I'm trying to find a way of moving forward in the joy I feel without dishonouring the grief of the past, coz it was real! But so is my joy now... And part of me doesn't want to be bound by something that seemed set to destroy me, part of me wants to let the (suffering of the) past be the past.
Does that make sense to anyone?