Unfortunately I do not have a name for you to PM - but can tell you that the response wasn't appropriate. I am over 40 and both Monash IVF and Melbourne IVF accepted me as a patient (the FSes I used at each don't specialize in over 40 and I'm not sure they treated me any different than any other patient except for starting me out on very high dosages). Perhaps it is also the doctor's prerogative, but I didn't get that sense - I felt like it was more about the clinic's rules.

As for the statistics - what your friend was told isn't far off. Should she proceed, she should go in with her eyes open...unlike myself who thought, well, if I can't get pregnant the way mother nature intended, IVF will do the trick. I learned the hard way this often isn't true...and more importantly (from my perspective), wasn't true for me.