Inconsiderate??? Or Overreacting???

[Manhattan]

BG, I didnt even think about the Medical Certificates

I have a good working relationship with my boss, but not really on a personal level. In my favour though, she is a partner of the firm (so I only have to report to her), a woman and a mother, so I figure will be more understanding.

And lol "he should never have asked a hormonal chicky for details"!

I guess I will take the wait and see approach now. Not 100% sure when we are starting treatment, and what time of day tests etc will be at, so still have a little time up my sleeve.

Thanks yet again BG for answering what must be at least my 100th question by now!

x

[briggsy's girl]

i would be talking to your supervisor NOW rather than waiting til treatment starts - that way, if she's going to play hard ball, you're not under the influence of hormones when dealing with her

you don't have to be out there in telling her what is happening. you can simply say that, after a specialist appointment recently, you've been made aware that you'll be needing follow up testing and treatment in the next few weeks or months and need to know how flexible your current role is. if she asks what treatment, you can either be honest, or say you'd rather not discuss it. ask if they will NEED med certs, if you can work flex time etc. get it all out there early so that it's not a major inconvenience to her when it does come up - she knows in advance it's something that will be happening soon kwim

[Hollybolly]

Oh Hun xxx

I completely agree with BG in terms of telling your boss now & seeing where you're at with her & how flexible the situation is going to be with her... if you leave it until you've already started, it may not be the best.

The drugs you'll be taking are just not good as far as keeping yourself calm - everything is magnified with the hormones, and its just a big enough challenge on its own without having the extra hard work of trying to decipher how your boss feels about it all...
Definately talk to her beforehand so you know what you're in for

As far as your brother goes - far out, sometimes I feel so much pity for the ignorant
Its very difficult for someone who has no idea to understand your situation... but not very difficult to appreciate it & be sensitive towards you going through it

I'm sorry your brother said what he did - and you can only toughen up & take your own & Ali's advice to make a 'select' list of who you want to discuss things with from now on.

Big hugs for you & my very best wishes for your upcoming treatment xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Stay strong, hun - the end result will be worth the struggle I promise

[Manhattan]

Ok girls, you have convinced me to talk to my boss before I start treatment. My next FS appt is on Tuesday, so I will know more then, and will speak to her on Wednesday. TBH, I'm really quite nervous about it, oh well, it has to be done!

Hollybolly, thank you for your kind words and wishes. I know the end result is going to be worth it, I guess I just find it hard to stay strong when everything else in life continues on at a million miles an hour. It would be so much easier if I didnt have to worry about work and other comittments....ah wishful thinking really!

Thanks for the continued support, I dont know what I'd do without my BB girls xo

[tk1999]

Manhattan, I just wanted to add a quick "I can't believe your brother said that"

You know I am always here for you if you need to catch up/vent/offload - MSN, BB and you have my mobile number - any which way you want to contact me I am here for you

xox