Firstly happy anniversary. 5 years is a big effort, and Im sure there are many more to come
I totally get the feeling of having put your life on hold. I would definitely suggest going to speak to a counsellor, just to give you the opportunity to get all your thoughts out and find out what you really want to do.
To be honest I have seen 2 councillors at both of the IVF clinics I have been to and really felt like i did not get anything out of it.I have good days and bad days just like i am sure you all do but its just so difficult to make the decision about when enough is enough.
I don't really want to take another break (we took 10 months off last year) as although I am technically still young, DH is 3 years away from 40 and he has decided that 40 is his cut off. And i totally respect that and can understand why he feels that way.
I have 2 frozen blasties that we will use shortly but I have started seeing an acupunturist and herbal guy and he is treating me for some other health issues that he believes is directly linked to implantation problems and he wants me to give him 6 months to "fix" me. So there is so much swimming around my little head and just don't know which way to go.
Aaaahhhhh!!!!! The frustration of it all. Thank god you ladies totally understand where i am coming from.
I can totally relate and hear you. DH and I are coming up to our third wedding anniversary, I know this isn't as long as you, but it is a constant reminder of how long we have been trying too. It is incredibly frustrating especially when others around you that you know have not been TTC anywhere near as long seemingly fall pregnant over night. It just does not seem fair. I think I must have been sadly mistaken when I thought we were going to get pregnant in the first couple of months after getting married.
We started on our first round of IVF earlier this year but the first cycle was cancelled so am waiting for the next one to come around now which seems to take forever. I just had my 34th birthday and DH is 38 (not far off 40), so we are both really scared that our age is getting away on us. The thing that keeps me going is just looking at all the pretty things out there for babies these days and imaging setting up the nursery and all that stuff. It might sound a bit materialistic, but it is whatever works as a pick me up!
As hard as it may be sometimes hang in there - there are lots of positive stories out there of people having a baby after years of trying so I'm sure your turn will come around. Please don't think you are alone...we're all hear to support one another.
Mollygirl- I am not in the same boat as you but wanted to say I am sorry it is so hard. And even though I have not been TTC for that amount of time, I can relate to that feeling of having your life on hold, or that awful limbo, and postponing plans and the whole "what if" thing. I was talking to a friend last night who has been TTC for 5 years and has finally turned to IVF and she was saying just how hard that has been over an extended period of time.
Congratulations on 5 years! I am glad your DH is so supportive.
As for the next step- do you think you can handle waiting while you see the natural therapist/acupuncture etc..so put things off for 6 months or so, or do you think the waiting itself will make you more anxious?
Have you had all tests done for possible implantation problems? I know there was a thread recently about tests for implantation problems.
It's hard for me at this stage to imagine not trying for a child...I just cant imagine not having a baby. I am not sure therefore when/if I would say "enough is enough".
I wish you luck and really hope your turn comes very soon.
Also, are there ways you and DH can plan nice things/trips while also TTC..so that life can have more joy again. Maybe plan in small blocks of time.
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