I was one of those who did find it tough waiting with kids in the room, but that was usually because I was an emotional wreck during IVF!
Now I'm contemplating how I will juggle appts myself when we go back to IVF for #2 next year, so it's nice to hear that other women found it inspiring to see kids in there
It never bothered me, in fact, I think that's the reason we are all there, to have children. So it wouldnt seem fair, that the little someone we try so hard to have has to stay at home.
Watching the kids play kept those waiting room appointments interesting
I found it hard. I wasn't jealous and I didn't think anyone was trying to hurt me, but I found the experience rather confronting and was shocked at the depth of my unfulfilled desire for a child. But I was / am struggling with depression, so I guess I am not representative of the general population of women at your clinic. Hope it goes well for you .
I certainly don't resent the women who bring kids - I wouldn't say it inspires me or makes me feel good to see them either - to be perfectly honest - most of the time I have just been thinking about what I am about to talk about with the FS or nurse or whomever I'm there to see - looking at the smilign face or a child makes me smile - but I'm not thinking about the process that has occurred for the child to be there -- cause they may or may not have been through assisted conception -- and they may, or may not acutally be the child of the woman in the room....
I would think that if people are finding it difficult it is more about the head space they are in, obviously everyone who is in the place has experienced similar issues, and - as you said - is it not always possible to leave other kidlets at home.
As long as you are careful and respecful as much as possible - and try to keep the kids quiet (and preferably not with noisy kids videos (as one woman when I was waiting - which was irritating and annoying, cause everything else was so quiet!! - she needed kid sized headphones~lol)
most people will cope - and those that don't - well.... you can't protect everyone in the world....
I was at the FS this morning and there were 2 couples there both with boys that looked around 18 months old. I didn't have a problem at all. One of them was quite chatty, so I was kept entertained listening to him while DP and I waited for our appointment. I think as myturn pointed out, it's really going to be about the head space people are in at that particular moment.
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