This is a good thread - thanks for posting it buliej
I found that while I did not put in much weight during our cycles, that my body shape changed and I lost muscle and gained fat. I have struggled with body issues for a long while (and still do to some extent) and found the change in shape to be depressing - and an extra issue to cope with on top of BFN's. I get into the cycle of self hating/blame, depression, not exercising or eating properly, negative effects on body etc etc - and still am!
I'm not sure what the answer is other than we have to accept what happens to some extent and try and do what we can - when we can to be good to ourselves with food and exercise - but be kind as well. On that note- clearly there is a need for others to be kind as well - I cant belive some of the comments people have had - how rude!
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FG - that's a good way of explaining it - my body (tummy area) has definitely changed - I wouldn't be surprised if it is all the hormones but no one ever mentioned this - I think there's so much that the drs or the clinic nurses could tell us that they just don't - without bellybelly, I'd be very lost
and you & Dusty are exactly right, it is depressing and feels like just another issue to deal with on top of all the others. The balance of being smart about it and kind to yourself is a hard one, but I agree that is key.
Dusty - it made me smile when you said your husband likes the new softer bits. DHs don't always know what to say, but sometimes they say the perfect things.
Possums - I hope we all have big pregnant bellies that we can show off!
Julie, I can't believe I only saw this thread...this weight gain thing has been bugging my happiness for a while, but I always trying to keep it to myself that in the grand scheme of things, its nothing. But after many cycles of dissapointment, I have found more resentment in this TTC journey and losing my figure is definately one of them ...
Not to my liking, my weight gain adding no size up to my boobs only the 'middle part', I have very much changed my dressing style in the last few years...Ebay becomes my other best friend so I can sell up all my Size 6 clothes, no more short t-shirt and tight jeans, smock or tunic dress is my favourate now because they are loose and cover my middif...I was sure the other day when I accidentally wore the wrong type of clothes, my female boss was checking my tummy trying to work out if Im pregnant...
I do find after a stim cycle, the bloating tend to be most severe and then after a few weeks break, it graduately eased off a bit, I don't look like 3-month pregnant. Nevertheless, I've gained at least 6kg through all the drugs...Not being an active person in the first place, I have been trying to do some running, swimming and yoga, but with the interruption of the cycle planning (as you mention worrying exercise when taking drugs then TWW etc etc), all becomes too hard. I do find yoga or pilates are really beneficial with my calmness and flexibility of the body, but not so much on losing weight.
I have put on ALOT of weight over the last 3 years. Like about 25kg!!!!!! I have had 3 ectopic pgs, 2 ruptures and after that I started my IVF journey. I have been sick and tired and recovering from surgery.
It is very depressing but there is not much I can do about it right now so I refuse to "worry" like I used to before I started on AC.
If this FET cycle that I am in now is a BFN, I will have a break and concentrate on getting my size back down to a 10.
Wow, more replies - I like knowing that I am not alone (selfish sorry), but really wish that this was not something that any of us had to deal with. My DH is very conscious of weight (both his and mine), and I am thankful that he has been very sweet about my weight gain (as he should be).
My secret wish (not so secret now that I am posting it), is that once I have a baby, I will be able to breast feed and it all will come off! There's a lot of wishes underlying that statement...
It obviously is an issue for many women...and I think as women we are often pretty caught up in body image/weight etc anyway, so it can be hard.
FG- like you I have long strongled with body/control issues...mainly being tooooo caught up in my weight/size/fitness etc. So for me, having to ease back a bit has been a challenge and I know that pregnancy (hurry up! ) and changes to my body, while I absolutely can't wait for them, will also have some challenging aspects for me.
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sorry), but really wish that this was not something that any of us had to deal with. My DH is very conscious of weight (both his and mine), and I am thankful that he has been very sweet about my weight gain (as he should be).
) and changes to my body, while I absolutely can't wait for them, will also have some challenging aspects for me.
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