Hi all,
I haven't been on here for over a year as I became to obsessed with it all. So for the last year have tried that whole not being overly focused thing and still nothing. So my question is what are my next steps. I have not seen a doctor as the one doctor I saw after a year of TTC-ing told me not to stress it will happen eventually as I am still young (26) and to wait til it has been over 2 years. I have one daughter who is 6 in May. She was conceived within 3 months of TTC and was a breeze pregnancy and labour. Kinda expected it to be easy to conceive second time around too. But any suggestions would be greatly appreciated as I am at a loss as to what I do next.
As much as I hate to say it I think the Dr is the next step. Your dr can do some basic tests on both you and your partner to check everything is behaving as it should. If the tests come up OK perhaps you could try and find a naturopath that specialises in fertility (I'm not sure where you are from so can't suggest anyone). The Jocelyn Centre in Sydney may be able to refer you to someone in your area. Good luck, don't lose heart.
Our DD was conceived in the 4th cycle but #2 was a whole different story. After 12mths of trying (with charting, without charting, with relaxing and stressing) I went to my dr and she ordered blood tests to see if I was ovulating and to check other hormones. Everything was normal. So we tried for another 3 months and I then made an appointment with my Obs/gyno. He said to me that he thought my tubes were a bit blocked with mucous. He said that he sees it quite alot that people trying for no.2 etc and that had no issues with conceiving previous children ended up with blocked tubes and that is why theY could not conceive. Anyway he booked me in for a laparoscopy, curette, and dye insertion. He said the procedure had a very high success rate.
Well after waiting one cycle after the lap I fell pregnant but m/c at 5wks. So I believe the lap etc did it's job.
So my suggestion would be to get a referral to see your gyno and go from there.
Wishing you all the best and if you have any questions, feel free to PM me.
I would definitely think that after 2 years you should probably be thinking about seeing a fertility specialist. They don't just deal with IVF but they are the best qualified to run all the right tests and find you some answers as to why you are not falling pregnant. Secondary Infertility is more common than you think, you are not alone in your journey. I would suggest a referral from your GP to a good FS is the next step.
Thankyou all. I suppose I will have to go back to my GP. Have moved towns so hopefully this one is a bit more understanding. Hubby is also one of those ppl who think it will happen when its supposed to. <SIGH> So getting him to consider it will take a lot of talking. Thank you all for being so supportive. Was thinking of trying a naturopath but should probably check everything is in working order first.
Krisp and melbel,
What type of tests would they need to do? Forewarned is forearmed. I like to know what I am in for. Hate blood tests with a passion!!! I live in a smallish town in SE QLD so I am not sure about the fertility specialists, gynos etc available here. Also are they expensive??
Are naturopaths expensive??
tests could include any of the following......bloodtests, usually at varying days in your cycle to see what your hormone levels are doing and to rule out any thing there, a simple internal ultrasound to start to see if anything like ovarian cysts or anything "barks" at them as being abornmal.
Next stage is usually a HSG where they inject some dye into the fallopian tubes while doing an ultrasound to check if the tubes are clear.
The next stage up would possibly be a laparoscopy but that would only be in some instances depending on what they find in the initial tests.
What would help the docs is if you had at least a couple of months of temp charting to show them so they can see when and if you ovulate and that sort fo thing...it will guide them as to what tests to do and also what treatments. If they find you are not ovulating correctly the treatment may be as simple as clomid tablets to stimulate better ovulation. The more information you can provide them with the easier it willbe for them to find out hopefully what the issue is.....
we also had trouble conceiving #2 (no trouble with #1) and were TTC 12+mths... we saw the GP and I had blood tests (hormones and Ovulation I think) and I had an ultrasound. Hubby had to have sperm count/analysis.
It took a LONG time for this to happen (THANKS TO DH) but once we had them done, booked in an appt with a fertility specialist and..... Got pregnant on our own!
Definately worth investigating though as you feel like you are finally doing somthing after all that time waiting and hoping for the best.
oh yeah I forgot about hubby...they will most likely get him to do a simple sperm analysis to start with so you might have to gear him up mentally for that possibility...its really no biggie (and some pathology labs you can do the business at home and just deliver the sample within half an hour) but some men get a bit thingy about the thought of it IYKWIM!!! LOL
Hi, Im new to these forums so please bear with me. I am 35 yrs and have been trying to conceive again for almost 2 yrs now. I previously had 3 miscarriages, first m/c at age of 21 yrs, second at 28yrs and was only told after the third m/c at 32yrs, that i have a bicornuate uterus. I got a referral to a FS, who did a laparoscopy and also found out that my left fallopian tube is blocked, but the right tube is ok and just to add to it all, my FS also told me that i have a mild case of endometriosis, which prob explains the years of painful periods. However, he told me that i should not have any problems conceiving and put me on a course of HT, but after 2 yrs still no luck in getting pregnant. I also suggested IVF but he didnt think that was necessary at the time. Im wondering if that would be the next step now as im worried that we will never be able to have any kids of our own. My husband is also keen on doing IVF if thats what it takes and its beginning to look like this is the only option for us. I have read alot of positive outcomes here, which gives me the feeling that there is hope for us yet! Does anyone have suggestions, i would love to hear them?
LOL melbel.....Getting hubby to agree for me to get tests will be hard enough. As I said he is very laid back with the whole thing and that it will happen when it happens. I was on nightshift work when we first started but have not done that for a year. So I thought my body should have sorted itself out if that was what was affecting it. Obviously not!
Thanks for all the info. At least I know what I am in for. Its so hard to wrap your head around the fact that it was so easy the first time and then the second time is so hard. I had all these plans in my head about distance between my kids and how it would all work. I don't usual plan that well but I have always had ideals about my kids. Hard to let go.
I did try charting at one stage too. But got lazy. Plus I had a mercury thermometer and I don't think I was shaking it enough when I first woke up so I was getting dodgy readings.
Thanks for so many replies to. I forgot how wonderful you girls are at answering posts!!
Still trying.....I posted before but it seems to have been lost so here goes:
The fact that you have had 3 miscarriages and are 35years of age I would definitely be pushing for further investigations and possibly IVF. At 35 the quality of your eggs is startiing to become an issue and you really do not want ot be waiting too much longer before taking action. there are so many newly devloped tests andprocedures for looking at fertility issues and sometimes it takes more than one specialist to cover all the bases. For example we had to fly from melbourne to Sydney last March to see a specialist who is at the top of his field in order to find out that i have an auto immune issue which is causing my immune system to attack the embryo. Now my melbourne specialist is liasing with him to make sure i have the best possible care.
Personally i think that if your specialist is teeling you that two years at age 35 is not a long time then I would be looking for a new specialist...but that is just my not so humble opinion.
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2years TTC naturally...whats the next step?
I live in a smallish town in SE QLD so I am not sure about the fertility specialists, gynos etc available here. Also are they expensive??
MELBEL has you all under controll there and id say shes done a great job with all her info i couldnt help any more all id say is yep get to a fs
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