Not going through it now (I barely know what DTD is now!) but I do remember that phase. It's so hard, and the pressure makes it really tough. I tried so hard to pretend, and in my last cycle I had really just about convinced myself that we weren't really trying. I did stuff like buying huge boxes of tampons, and strapless bras, and booking into trips that I wouldn't be able to do if we were successful. I partied like a 20 year old. I didn't talk to DH about my cycle any more, although I was still temping, because I really wanted to take the pressure off him. If he asked, I told him, but he didn't ask much. We were emotionally exhausted, so we turned to fraud. It worked.
I'm not suggesting that emotional fraud will work for you... but I know it is so hard, and DTD does stop being fun, no matter how much you try. Will hurl some baby dust high into the sky, and hopefully it lands on you.
you are so not alone on this one. We tried for 4 years and it nearly ruined our relationship. It was horrible. It was only about a 12 month break of ttc ( literally we only bd about 3 times in 8 months) we managed to get our relationship back on track.
I really kinda feel, that its important to have breaks when it gets a bit too much. Do something to spoil yourself and give your body a break sort of thing. I wish you all the best of luck xx
defiantely not alone i am at the point where i am so angry that i am not pregnant that i dont want to have sex anymore as it is a chore now and not one that will have a good outcome but its catch 22 coz thats why i am not preggers i dont have sex enough....
Man I know that one! I actually found it traumatic in the end, as I was "forcing" myself to have sex when I really didn't want to. Must have been terrible for poor DH.
It was actually a blessed relief when we were told we'd need IVF, as bad as that sounds, because I just couldn't bear to keep doing it.
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