Gargy,
Wish I had a great philosophical answer for you, but I don't.

I agree with both you and Michelle. How you handle the anger is what makes it a choice, rather than just another necessary and unavoidable part of our emotions.

I think that anger is really a stage we go through, but I guess the point is what you use that anger for - do you choose to move to the next stage, or stay stuck at the angry phase.

You did not stay angry, and chose to apologise - wow, that takes a really strong, centred person to do that. To the person who did not accept it - well, they chose to stay stuck at the angry moment and not move on. Their loss. You are definitely the bigger person, and can be proud of yourself.

One thing this LTTTC group has shown me is that all the emotions that I have had are OK. And instead of beating myself up for feeling jealously, frustration, sadness, anger, etc and then feeling even worse about myself, and beating myself up for beating myself up etc etc - a vicious cycle that I’m sure many can relate to. Now I have learnt to accept each emotion as it comes, and go with it for however long it takes, and then I come out the other side feeling better about myself. My down-in-the-dumps times are much shorter these days and DH and the counsellor are even impressed with my more positive moods.

Don't be hard on yourself about being teary and emotional. It could be the hormones, it could be just a phase, it could be because you have gone through a huge amount of things in the last few years and you deserve a bit of time to be angry and sad.

I know I haven’t helped you, but I do hope things ease up for you a bit soon.

Jo