Anyone here 42 and over -and successful ??

Big wooohooo! I rang our gyne clinic here in Hamilton, and I asked when I might be seen... Well the reply was they are running at least 5 months behind!!!! My voice must have sounded sooooo sad, and after talking to her for awhile about what I should do meanwhile,(only the desk lady!) she said, look you need to be seen and gave me an apointment for Wed next week...Im so excited ..... I will come away with a plan.Last time I came away with nothing, and miscrried,so hopefully they will take me seriously!!!!
Oooh I told you b4 DH,but you will prob understand my excitment alittle more than him....hehe

ooh, cross fingers Satya, maybe a BFP coming your way... time for one ov us ladies to share some babydust!

Just had to make the big """200""" post hahaha...see im actually smiling, and it feels great!Im throwing all my positive vibes around.....grab them quick!!

yes i will grab some thanks ,i dont know what my chart is doing AF is due wednesday.

Hi everyone, MrsK I'm really sorry that you have lost your beautiful miracle baby. Both yourself and your husband have done nothing worry, so please don't blame yourselves. Coping is very difficult, I would recommend that you both see a counsellor and let yourself grieve. I had one child after my 3 MC and she was 10 years old at the time, I really felt that there was no way that I was going to have another successful preg and the devastation I felt was huge. There seemed to be preg women/ new babies everywhere, I would find myself crying in shopping centres, judgeing peoples worthiness of motherhood and feeling guilty at the same time. I talked to lots of people and got a lot of responses that really hurt me. It really seems to be a taboo subject talking about preg before 12 weeks you just don't do it. The best thing I have ever done is jump on here, I wish I had done it earlier, you get to say things that the outside world does'nt want to hear or just does'nt understand. It is early days and I don't want to hurt you, but is it worth putting your name back on the IVF list who knows how long it may take before your turn comes along. Amongst my grieveing the desire to become preg again was huge. Please take care of yourself. Loads of :hugs:Pam.

Hi everyone, I have been offline for 2 days with the wild weather we have been having we have had no power. I jumped on late last night had nearly finished my catch-up and promptly got booted offline, so here is my essay again,shortend just a little.
Chelle great news!!! I really hope you get some answers. I hope this new doc is right about my hormone levels, it nearly sounds to good to be true although I have for a while now wondered and asked loads of ? about it myself. Could this be a problem for you now?
Satya, nice to hear from you and good luck, it is really amazing that when help comes your way how positive it makes you feel. This is the time when you will get preg, relaxed not watching and reading something into everything.
Betty good luck I hope af does'nt turn up on Wednesday and your sore throat is'nt a cold starting. I am so freaked out about getting sick these days I will go to amazing lengths to avoid it, so please don't sneeze on me.:lol:
Lissie I'm more excited about your cycle than my own. I hope your US shows you 4 eggies at least. Time seems to be going in slow motion, I'm finding it hard to wait for the next installment.
Thanks Jen positive stories always most welcome.
Jo you are a wealth of information it always amazing me. I was temping charting for 6 months and it was stressing me to the max, when I stopped and just watched my cycle I fell prg next cycle. At least lap will show if endo is back, if you make it:bluedust:

I had my US on Wednesday and I knew I was going to O beforehand it was really hard missing a cycle and I had really good CM I actually had a little cry* the opportunity wasted thing*. But it is best to wait and get the help and I hope Mac doc is right. US was good showed I released at 1 eggie maybe 2. Lining was 7.5mm thick and from another angle 13mm not sure about the discrepency, but the operator said it was good. Then it was of for the HyCoSy, I really had myself worked up about it, some of the stories I read the girls had compared it to labour, worst pain they had ever felt etc. So DH was forced to take a day off work to hold my hand, as it turns out he was'nt even allowed to be there. I asked the doc's nursing staff heaps of ? got given tissues ready for a big cry and for me it turned out to be uncomfortable a bit pap smearish and a couple of seconds of pain when he injected to much dye at once. Everything is good no blocked tubes, uterus nice smooth triangle, so nothing standing in the way there. So off to see Mac on Monday for DH :sperm:results and the next move, which should be them taking my cycle over the following Monday or thereabouts. DH is secretly worried it is him now, he made some comment about swimming backwards, but I'm sure his results will be good and he will be back to feeling studley in no time. What is a good result? So needless to say I am starting to feel excited, but I am also worried it is toooo good to be true. If you got a bad result from the tests at least you would have a reason. Anyway have to go serves me right for jumping on now little miss 2 has just helped herself to weetbix and they are everywhere and master 3 has no idea how she got them. See ya Pam.

Oh Pam , that all sounds very positive....I was thinking about what you said, maybe I do have a hormone problem...something I should mention...Ah delightful children!I too had my cry(well loads of tears) round the O time, missed opportunity and all that, but next month maybe....have to be in the right frame of mind to handle everything that comes with TTC, and I felt I wasnt there just yet.....
Lissie, how you doing, good luck for today!!!
Off to do the papers with my girls!!
luv to everyone

Mrs K- I'm still avoiding the baby aisle after 6 m/c, the first m/c was triplets and they died one by one over a week. I thought I'd be OK and then had another m/c. Then 3 kids - then 4 more m/c over the last 3 years and I am doubting I will ever get there now. My DH doesn't doubt at all but we will be successful and I am clinging to hope because what else is there?

I'm revising the sometimes angry feelings I have had for DH as he has been so calm and positive through all this while I'm disintegrating. He is holding me up and supporting me a lot of the time. I was shocked when he didn't help me as I was haemaorrhaging last year after one particularly bad m/c but he has been excellent since Jan this year.

I feel like screaming when I hear pg women complain and be unhappy with their pg, it hurts so much as I'd give anything to be in their shoes.Hopefully I'll still be a walking miracle but part of me is just hoping to accept that this may be it and get over it somehow but I'm not a quitter so keep ttc. I feel so powerless, m/c are totally beyond your control and my poor body is just not cooperating... As a funny irony, I should avoid all threads on forums DUE 1995, 1996, 2004, 2005, 2006, 2007. The due date for my last m/c is next week.

I'm supposed to be O but temps are not going down and there is no CM, I'm as dry as can be and BD hurts. May also be a hormone problem? I hope there is something that can be fixed.

Great that you are getting a lap, Satya. Mine is 19th July. Chelle- hope the clinic can help you SOON.Pam, you sound in great shape.

Hi :hello:
Satya - good to hear from you i was wondering where you were - good luck with the up coming lap - and your ivf journey.
Pam - glad to hear everything sounds so positive for you.
Chelle - i grabbed a few of those positive vibes you sent out - thanks!
Jo- your hubby sounds great - you are a strong lady - its gonna work you know.
Jen - thanks for the inspirational stories - they really do help heaps - lifts you up a little.
Betty - i have never done a chart as always ivf (no choice) i would not even know where to start - good luck with it betty .
Me - feeling really very down - haven't stop crying all day. Boss rang and gave me the day off. Went for BT and ultrasound this morning and really disappointed with my results. At this stage i only have 3 viable follies to work with they are 22, 17 and 15mm each theres another 3 at 12mm and the rest rang from 8-10mm. Well they should be around 18mm is best for mature egg - so not looking to good, as not every follicle will hold and egg so i may only get 1 or 3 or none. One more night of injections, then trigger shot on Sat evening then egg pick up mondays morning 9-930am. I just can't stop the tears today, anyway i guess im counting my chickens before they hatch so to speak and should just wait and see what happens on Monday - just starting to feel i will never be a mum and that just kills me. Sending you all so much luck and :bluedust:

Oh Lissie :hugs: I am still feeling very positive for you- even healthy young women have poor IVF results initially and go on to have success.

Sometimes I think I know too much, the obsession just takes over and my mood varies depending on the temp chart or saliva test...

A lot can still change over the w/end..:pray:
Jo

O lissie, sending all the luck and positive baby vibes right back at you sweetie!!! You are doing so well! You will have and hold a baby! I just know it. Prayers are for YOU and your precious follies...grow little ones grow!! hugs to you

:hugs:Lissie I feel really sad for you, I will have everything crossed for you tonight and I hope your egg pick on Monday goes well. I'II be hoping that you get as many as possible. Thinking of you hugs and best wishes. Pam.

:hello: girls,
Thanks for the support - i really need it now. Headspace still not so good but feeling a little stronger today but still breaking down in tears at stupid things, must be all the hormones in me right now i don't know - all i know is a want a baby (family) more than anything, but i am telling myself at the same time that i will not die if my dreams don't come true and i have a wonderful husband which is something alot of people don't have. I am grateful for everything i have but a baby would be such a bonus. Trying to keep positive but finding it such a struggle this time - anyhow off to hospital tomorrow morning should have egg p/u around 10am so will let you all know how it goes.
Hope you are all well - i know im not much help to any of you right now - and i am truly sorry for that. Talk tomorrow.

good luck for tomorrow lassie. tested yesterday bfn ,might test again tomorrow.
pam what day of your cycle did you get your scan on your lining, mine was day 22 and mine was 5mm bit thin.

Hi Lissie - I hope everything goes perfectly for you tomorrow.

Hi girls, hope evryones doing well today!!!
Betty my US was day 12 approx 2 days post O, just remember that every day your lining thins so is yours was a week post O its probablly not bad. See ya later today for Lissie's result.:goodluck::grouphug:

Hi Girls:hello:,
Feeling much more positive - got 5 eggies :clap:- Doc said that was great and that for my age its looking good he even said he thought my ovaries where like that of a young woman - i said " I'm still young what are you talking about!" He is such a lovely man - best egg pick up i have ever had not too painful only this time the local hurt the most but he put it up as far as he could go and spent ages putting little holes in me with local - seemed to do the trick , although now i am really feeling it - tummy pretty tender and sore okay if i don't stand up straight and walk around - will know tomorrow about fertilization results, lab says 3 eggs look nice and mature and of good quality the other two are so so , but they where going to give the so so ones a few more hours before icsi to see if they improve ( did not know that was possible). So hopeing and praying that at least 3 do well now - if i only have a couple left they will transfer on day 3 however if i have more than two they see if they can make to day 5/blastie and then transfer. I am starting to get a little excited but don't want to - you guys know what i mean. Anyway just wanted to say thanks for the well wishes - you girls are so great - full of hope and inspiration just when you need it - sorry to be such a downer the last few days - hey but i guess we all have turns at that!
Anyway so how is everyone doing?
Betty sorry about bfn - did you test again?
MrsK - how are you feeling today - still pretty raw i imagine - thinking of you.
Jo - you where right - things did change over the weekend - thanks for being sooo positive.
Satya, Pam & Chelle hi and thanks for the positive thoughts.
This is such a great group of woman:grouphug: & :bluedust:

lissie wow what a journey for you very exciting, i will be praying for you.

Congratulations:clap::dance:All that worry and what a good result, sounds like you may have some snowbubs waiting for your second bubby. We'll keep on with the positive thoughts seeing as they are working so well. Be excited it sounds very hopefull, I'm assuming BINL count was good. This is your month I'm sure:pray::happyforyou::bluedust:Hugs from me.

Our good news is we are in excellent health, DH is going to frame and add flashing lights to his:whip:count results and is feeling very studley, 162 million per ml and 85 % swimming like crazy the doc said, so we are starting nasal spray Wednesday evening. Very excited!!! :dance:

Pam,
Thats sooooo exciting - go DH - guess you have a stallion on your hands Pam he he he!
Wishing you so much luck with this cycle - i guess we gals still have it in us hey.
Sending you heaps of :bluedust:

Thanks heaps Betty for the prayer- all the help i can get right now! I'll send one right back at ya!:goodluck:

that is great pam, i am waiting for my DH results.

Good luck Girls, let me know how you go.

Hi Girls,
Just got my fertilization results. Well the two eggies were not suitable for fert so they icsi 3 of them, only two fertilized - tranfer will be day 3 (Thursday morning) hopefully they just get stronger and stronger - am not going to complain cause i guess two is better than none! I think the worst part about all this is the waiting and the mind games.
How are you all going?

Hi Lissie, bad luck with the 3 little eggies. But heaps of good luck for the 2 strong ones, fingers crossed they keep growing bigger and better everyday.
Jo hows is everything going? I hope your doing okay.
Betty Is your DH healthy and doing all the right things, from memory he is a bit younger so hopefully his count is good.
MrsK I hope you are OK *I have been thinking of you, at this sad and difficult time.:(
Chelle, Satya and everyone else, Iooking forward to hearing from you all. Stay well in the meantime.

Hi there, do you have room for another here?
I am Judy and I am 43.
My TTC history is
*April '83 m/c 9 wks
*June 84 Greg (40w2d) now 23
*August 91 Tasha (38w) now 15
*October 92 Nic (38w) now 14
*April 5 2002 Annabelle stillborn 31 wks (cord entagnalement).
Started TTC actively again in June 2003.
*7 cycles then
*Samuel. (BFP10DPO, betas [16dpo]390 born Sept 14 2004)
*January 17 05 PPAF - 9 cycles then
*m/c Nov 1 05 BFP ?dpo (betas [15dpo]141, [17dpo]205, [19dpo]173, [22dpo]25 m/c while betas were still at 25)
* Feb 06 testing on Cd12 (my GP said the CD day didn't matter ) FSH 4, E2 552 thyroid was normal. Liver was normal.
*Feb 06 testing continued 7DPO P4 =15. I was told that was fine but I am informed now by others that 15 is low.
*6 cycles then
*chem pg, ( April 19 - May 23 06 BFP14dpo )
*chem pg, (May 24 06 - June 28 06. BFP at 13dpo)
*1 cycle,
*Joey (BFP 10dpo, betas [13dpo]123, [15dpo]271, h/b 7w3d, m/c intact 11w4d then D&C), October 8th 06
*Ethan (BFP at 12dpo, spotting since 4dpo, betas [13dpo]150, [17dpo]968, h/b 6wks, m/c7wk D&C) December 1 06
*TTC and still waiitng for a miracle
About to have another set of CD21 and then Cd3 FSH, LH and E2 done.

I saw an Re back in April last year who said with my history I did not need IVF or IUI and to just keep trying. My OB is 100% positive he will see me have another baby but I don't know anymore. Seems like the end of the rainbow is getting further and further away.


A positive note for Lissie. I have a friend in Melbourne aged 38. her DH has to have sperm aspirated due to blocked vas so she has IVF. Her 1st attempt was 3 BFNs (3 transfers)and her 2nd attempt gave one egg so it was ICSI (right term?) to make sure and so one eg was put back. Her 7 wks scan last week showed twins with good heartbeats.

I am hoping to meet some new friends and share this tumultuous journey to an elusive BFP.

hugs
Judy

:hello: Judy,
Nice to have you on board, this is such a great thread Jo started it and i thank god everyday that she did as i feel i have woman my own age group to talk to this about as we do have our clocks ticking just that little bit faster! You have been thru alot Judy and i am sorry for all your losses - now with so many of us on board i feel like we have an army and we are going to win. Thanks for the wishes - i am trying to stay positive - i keep going over other threads and i read that girls half our age get only one egg, no fertilization , cancelled cycles , embies not making it to day 3 etc etc so - i think we are all doing okay. Is anyone good at maths? I was thinking today (dangerous) that the more we try surely statistically we have a better chance ? Well im going with that thought - i just figure keep on trying as its just GOT TO WORK, im going to have a word with my two embies before transfer and let them know i will not be very happy with them if they don't behave and stick like crazy!Hopefully they will listen.
Pam - how are you and MR Studley going? Has he put those lights up yet.
Jo - whats happening - are you okay?
MrsK - sending you :hugs:
:hello:CHelle, Satya & Betty - hope you are all well and happy.
Want to know what you are all up to - need some conversation - have the rest of the week off and im bored already. Doc said take it easy till Wednesday at least but i keep looking at all the housework etc that needs to be done , so im just going about it very slowly - really feel like pigging out on chocolate as i am an ex smoker and whenever i get stressed i really really want a cigie but know i can't and won't so chocolate is the next best thing for me - might ring DH and request a mixed selection he he he.
Sending everyone the biggest amount of :bluedust: & :stickyvibesboy:

welcome judy, wow what a journey, i do fell for you. not much happening with me, my temp took a big dip today so you can say AF will be on here way .i know that in the next few days i will lose the plot and have a good cry.Fingers crossed for everyone else. still waiting for test results.

Ladies,

we have started a new Buddy Group for you as it looks like you guys have bonded. I know you mentioned not long ago wanting something like this made permanent and we here at BB aim to please! The new 'older mums TTC' thread is here and I will be closing this thread so you can all move over there.

We will see how it goes and may or may not make changes to suit. Please feel free to PM me with any ideas, issues or concerns you may have.

love
sushee