Anyone here 42 and over -and successful ??

Hi girls,
Satya - good luck -:bluedust: lets see a BFP.
Jo -I know you can do it - sending you some positive thoughts - now you really should see to the root canal- you don't want to be preg and going to the dentist - i know how easy it is to put off, i put off my visit for 3 or so years - got into trouble today from dentist, but teeth okay in good shape so just a clean which is bad enough - really hate people touching my mouth.
Pam - You have a great attitude and i hope you can have that little bundle soon.
Anyway have a fridge full of IVF drugs i will probably start injections around 17th June they hope to pick up eggs on last weekend in June and are going for blasties so day 5 transfer - so praying for as many eggs as possible and also praying brother inlaws sperm does its magic! Anxiety starting to set in - here we go on that rollacoaster again but its all worth it cause i know its going to work one of these times.

Hi everyone,

Jo, I only ever thought that I would have one child with MC's and relationship end so my other 2 babies are really a blessing and very lucky to be here as I have a very big prob with pregs sticking and then staying for the long haul at least the first half is touch and go. But after saying all that I really feel the need to have another baby, I'm sure it will be tough,but I'm really determined, and we certainly expect to have problems. My pet hate is people who say (at least you know you can get preg) yes we can acheive that, but we don't know if the baby will stay.We also find it very hard to get help for the same reasons.

Betty,I have an appointment with a new Doc on the 21st as well I'm:pray:he can help started us on some sort of hormone treatment. As yet I have'nt gone back into cycle from the last MC so I am hoping that will hold off until after then. So I don't have to wait a cycle and waste another chance.

Satya, I'm not up on abbreveations, but I'm guessing that is 9 days past ovulation.Sounds like a good sign to me,that is one of the first things that I notice and dizziness. Best of luck.

Lissie, looking forward to following your next cycle, I have a good feeling. I wish I could help in some way, but I guess just chatting is a good start. If I had started younger I would have liked to donate my eggs(even if they are doodgey) I doubt anyone would want them now, just a bit too old.:egg:

Anyway catch up again soon;)Pam.

Quick post before work ladies. I did a HPT this morning 10DPO CD24 (last cyle was only 24 days but usually 28 days) and it was a BFN. Still feeling hopeful though as it is early & 17 trips to the loo in 24 hours is not normal for me (and 20 the day before).... yes I am counting. My temps have been up and down since Oing as I have had a nasty cold for a week now and it still hasn't gone. Don't know what to think.

Hi Lissie,
I know the rollercoaster ride so well. I hope you get your little bundle very soon, you sound like a great mum! I'm worried about root canal as I think there's a link between digging out old fillings and m/c. So I keep putting it off:(
Hi Pam,
You sound like me- I was at a group last night where I saw women from my old Playgroup and one in particular was very anxious about ttc and it took her 18 months and she was heavily pg and due next month. It brought home the reality to me how I was with her ttc, pg 3 times yet now still nowhere near my goal. I'm determined too:)
Hi Satya- it may be too early to test, I've had a few BFN when I tested too early and then suddenly they were BFP. Good luck!

Gynae visit tomorrow with a view to a lap.

Wish me luck.
Jo

Hi Ladies,

I am 43 and preg with my first. DH and I have been really ttc for 5+ years (although we have never used any form of contraception in 18 years) and my right tube is blocked. A week after we registered to start IVF I discovered that I was pregnant. It is all very new (only 7wks) and I think I am still in shock, in fact I think I am terrified if the truth be told. Had a couple of scares with some bleeding and so had US to check if all was ok and saw 8mm embie with a heart beat 109bpm. I still can't quite believe it. What's more they tell me that the egg came from my right ovary which is amazing seeing that tube is (was?) blocked! I don't have many people to talk to about this, and certainly no one even close to my age bracket so I hope you don't mind me joining in this thread.
Thanks
MrsK

Hi and welcome MRSK , do join us. WOW congratulations on your wonderful news.

Hi Mrs K-
Welcome- that's fantastic news and congratulations!
On an American forum I read about a 45 year old woman expecting a boy conceived naturally. The fact that your baby has a heartbeat already is a great sign:-)
Jo

Congratulations Mrs K. Wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy.

Mrs K,
Way to go - Big CONGRATULATIONS -well done:happyforyou:
Please do join in the more the merrier - there seems to be more and more of us which is so inspiring, it certainly does help to talk to others in our age bracket; Heres to a happy and healthy pregnancy and hopefully i will be able to join you in the next month or so.

Hi Lissie, Betty and everyone else hope everyone is well.
Congrats MrsK I bet you are suprised,I'ii look forward to watching your progress. Make sure you let us know how everything is going.:bluedust::stickyvibesgirl::bellyrubs:and heaps of good luck.
Satya, I reckon it sounds positive,:fertilise:hope so, you may have to wait a few more days to test though. I promise myself that I'm not going to test till I'm overdue but can"t wait, usually there is a weekend in the way and I'm just to impatient. But next time I'm going to force myself.

Jo, I was out splitting wood today (therapy) I found myself thinking what if I'm preg I should'nt be doing this. I then wondered if you are afraid to exercise in the TWW and when you find out.:dunno:

Hi everyone- Hope everyone is well.

I do everything as normal but maybe I shouldn't. I have had so many m/c the horror of it is too much for me at times, but I try to carry on as normal. Saw my specialist today and am booked in for a lap on 5 July unless there are cancellations or I'm pg. The bad news is my lovely specialist who I've seen for 6 years is going on leave for a year:( and may not come back...
Any news Satya? I've started to not test until I'm a few days over now because the low I felt from a BFN was too great and it was costing too much!!

Jo

Good morning girls,:hello:
Hope everyone is having a lovely looooong weekend - that extra day does make a difference. Anyway im starting to get anxious and nervous about my ivf cycle but i guess its just putting me one step closer to preg hopefully:pray:
Jo - good luck with the lap on the 5th july - i have heard a lot of girls fall after having a lap - hope its true for you.
Pam - read you post - i don't think your kids would ever look at you as old - my parents had me around 38 and whilst my parent were alot older than my friends i always thought my parents were the coolest.
Bettyboop - good luck with the apt at hosp on 21st june only 11days away - hang in there.
Satya - hows it going - sending you heaps of :bluedust: and :pray:
Hope everyone else is good - anyway enjoy whats left of the weekend and :bluedust: to all.

Hi everyone,

My AF arrived today after a couple of days of spotting. It's pretty light but I'm sure it's AF not an implantation bleed as the urinary frequency has now gone away. I'm seeing a gyno this week who has an interest in infertility so I'm hoping he can offer me some help.

Hi Satya,
Bummer AF arrived - but good luck with the gyno this week - hopefully he can offer you some help - up hill battle i know but its just gotta work.

Hi everyone-
Satya-Sorry AF arrived, that's so disappointing. Who is your Gynae? Mine is going on 1 year's leave and may not return... I really like and trust him so much.
Hope everyone else is having a good weekend. I can imagine how nervous you would be for IVF, Lissie.
Jo

another day felling a bit better today, Satya sorry AF arrived and good luck with app this week. Lissie fingers grossed for IVF. Some day are harder than others , thank for you kind words.Hope you all have a good day.

hows every one going , i am waiting to O.

Jo - I'm in Melbourne so my gyno wouldn't be of any use to you. It's my first appointment with him today (to be honest I don't even know if it is a male or female doctor, I'm just assuming) so it will be interesting to see if he's a man of action or more of a wait and see doctor. I need someone who wants to take action of some sort. I'm too old now to wait and see.

Bettyboop - My AF was a really short one - two light days with spotting on either side. I'm glad to have it gone. I'm still having to get up to go to the loo during the night so I'm blaming that on the cold weather of late. My temp has stayed low so I know there's no way its an implant bleed. This cycle seemed so positive but I guess the symptoms must have been caused by my cold and nothing else. Oh well, maybe I'll have better luck this cycle. Good luck with Oing.

that is what i am hoping at my age i want some action from my doc

Well, bettyboop, I got some action. Way more than I expected to get actually. I am being put on a waiting list for a lap & a hysteroscopy. I took the ultrasound results that my GP had sent me for with me and he took one look at them and said that if I do have a fibroid (the u/s showed a possible one) that they will have to get rid of it or I will just keep miscarrying. He thinks that this is a possible reason for my recent one. He then said after the procedures are done I should go on IVF. I'm not keen to do that as I fell pg recently without any assistance and if a fibroid turns out to be the problem then maybe I would have some luck naturally. Anyway, I think I'm in shock, I just expected either a script for something or no action at all, but I guess I can't complain as I got what I wanted.

well that is great news satya you will be pleased, i only have to waitone more week for my app, i fell this O might be a wait of time.

Hi girls, sorry Satya about Af, we don't want it then we want it the poor thing is confused.Good luck with all your tests,not that I no much about IVF but I reckon grab the chance. On sunrise this morning they are talking about a drug that is being developed that will slow the ageing process of the eggs. So a woman in her 20's will take it and when she is in her 40's she will have her 20 something year old eggs waiting for her.Plus other benefits like delayed menopause, good bone density etc. Won't be around for 10 years after all the testing but hopefully it may help my daughters. Don't want to bum anyone out, but they also talked about at this age we lose 2 eggs an hour how much does that suck. Made me want to get into baby making mode, scared the life out of me.
Lissie have you used you BINL sperm before? If not :crossfingers:
Betty good luck, I hope you have some success, I hope we both do.
Astrajoey, hope you find someone equally as good or even better,it's amazing how many caring Doc's are out there. I think when they get to that level they really want to be there, it's more than just the money for most of them. Anyway :bedtime:Talk soon Pam.

Hi Pam,
No i have not used BINL sperm before so i am just hoping to hell its a good batch!
My poor DH sperm is of very bad quality after having a vasc 15yrs ago, even when we 1st went to FS we were told that a reversal would not work after all this time, usually they say a reversal within the first 5-7yrs is mostly a success but after that forget it so thats why i have no choice but ivf. We have tried with my DH sperm and this is the first time we have tried donor sperm - basically DH sperm swims backwards and has two heads!!only joking but really bad quality am just amazed that we always got fertilized eggs and blasties. Iam starting to feel a little desperate but i know its all out of my hands and i have no control over what will happen - all i want is just one healthy happy little baby thats all.

Hi all,

Pam-that's scary about the egg loss:(
Betty- what will your Dr look into at your appointment?
Satya, you got action all right but there's no time to wait. Tell the Dr if you want to ttc naturally but have the tests done to see what's going on. Twice I was booked in for a laparoscopy and at the last minute had a pg test and BFP, so cancelled the lap. I'm hoping simply being booked in for a lap again July 5 will give me another BFP.
Lissie, I'm reading a very positive book I ordered from a website called something like How to get Pg at 40 plus etc. written by a woman in our situation.

I am due for AF on Saturday and yesterday I got strong period pains and a temperature drop on my chart and I thought AF is going to be early and I'll have to have the laparoscopy. Had a short session of AP and the pain subsided. This morning though, more pain but a temperature rise on my chart... I don't know what's happening and I hate the 2 ww!! I'll ask my Dr who he recommends, I could continue to see him at his new location where he's working during his year of leave but don't like the hospital he would use. I'll look into it more. He'll tell me who to see, we have a great relationship after 6 years plus.


Hope this is our month for at least one BFP. Let's prove the ageists wrong:) :)
Jo

Goodmorning girls,
Satya - hows the enquiries going with the ivf? have you found a clinic yet?
Pam - i was shocked about eggs loss at our age -frightening!
Betty - not long for that apt now -all this waiting around is annoying isn't it.
Jo - good luck with the new doctor i hope you like him/her as much as your old doctor.
Well im off the pill now and just waiting for AF which usually only takes me 2-3 days so she should appear by Sunday then i have a blood test immediately then straight into the lovely injections - oh how i just love being full of hormones - NOT - but its what has to be done to get the end result. So now we just sit and wait to see how things pan out i guess but am feeling positive before i even start so thats good. Oh i hope we all get a BFP within the next month or so - fingers crossed for all of us.

Hi everyone,
Hope all is well, it's funny how we are at an age where we don't want to waste time but have to all wait for one thing, AF, an appointment or another!!
I am still waiting for AF and feeling every twinge. Holding back from HPT...
Jo

HI Girls,

Yep i know what you mean Jo -right now im waiting for AF most impatiently she should be here by now but no sign of her - never thought i'd want her so bad but right now i have to have her to get my blood test done so i can start my injections and get this ball rolling- oh well guess ill just clean till her arrival. Hope you all have a good day - so whats everyone up to?

not much happening here waiting to O then it will be TTW , wait for thursday to come for my hospital app.not sure what to expect from hospital app, i had ashmans many years ago had my daughter scine then , then another D&C after that so my lining is so thin, fingers crossed.

Good luck bettyboop with appt on thursday at hospital - hope all goes well.
Hey got AF this morning then quick dash to hospital for blood test - so i can start my injections tonight just have to wait for dosage from Dr D Lok in Sydney. Yippie on the road now.

lissie must be about the first time you are pleased to get AF and get things started.

Yep - this is the only time i look forward to AF - funny isn't it - usually hate her but sooooo glad to see her this morning. Funny though im feeling so calm right now - i guess you just get to the stage where you realise that no amount of stressing is going to help anymore and what will be will be i just hope to all hope that i get the prize!
Time will tell. :bluedust: to all.

Hi all,
Good luck Lissie and Bettyboop with your appointments.
AF came yesterday and I am a bit low and teary, my temp chart for this month looked great for once. I will have the laparoscopy on July 5 and see what happens, but I'm losing hope. Wish I could rewind my bio clock a few years!!
Jo

Austrajoey sorry AF arrived,dont worry last month i was a mess when AF arrived, i think we would all like to turn the clock back afew years.Hopefully once you have had the laparoscopy thing will be all go.

Hi girls, Jo I really feel for you, hopefully after your lap things will start to happen. Stay strong you give me hope, but I also understand where you are coming from. My AF turned up today first time since last MC, but I don't hold out hope for this cycle. I feel so run down I guess two MC in a row will do that to you, and because I feel depressed I'm not really looking after myself, just a bit fragile at the moment. I'm seeing a new doc on the 21st so Af has turned up too early (I knew it would happen) so I don't think they will be able to do anything this cycle. So I get another month older!!! Damn.
Lissie I have a good feeling about you, it's your time. You sound very relaxed, donor sperm etc. It's going to happen for someone and we are all having tests etc, so I guess we are out of action. Can't wait to hear about you progress, hopefully it gets me feeling positive. Betty good luck not to many more days now, hopefully they can do something.
Also I wanted you all to know that I really appreciate talking to you all, it really helps me get things out that other people don't know about or just don"t understand, but I don't really feel up to the feedback thing, so please take this as my feedback. Any chat is much looked forward to, and helpful to me. So many thanks. Pam.:hug:

Pam , sorry AF arrived ,wow i wish she would go away from us all for 9 months.good luck on seeing the new doc on thursday.:grouphug:It is really great to be able to talk to you all to, some poeple just dont understand wow i hope my doc does fingers crossed.

Hi Girls,
Thanks for the positive feedback as sometimes we really need it.
Pam sorry AF arrived and that you are feeling down - please please stay positive we need you to.
Betty me too - i so wish there was a magic pill to turn the clock back - i still kick myself for starting this sooner. I just thought it was so simple go to ivf and fall pregnant but not so - but i've come to realise that we have regrets as it just eats you up you just have to press forward and hope for the best and know somehow it will work.
Jo - sorry AF arrived and that you are feeling teary - i know what you mean - please don't loose hope - thats the only thing we have left now is HOPE -
I was thinking about it yesterday and i too got a little down - what if it doesn't work again - will i or should i try again and when do you say enough is enought - i just don't know anymore - but i guess its just wait and see stuff - sometimes i think i'm just pulling at straws and my time is up but then i hear of another woman older than me falling pregnant and i think hey i can still do it. And then if it does work im so paranoid about another m/c its not funny - how much heartach does one heart have to take??
Started injections last night - hubby is so good at giving needles i never really feel it the only one i hate is the trigger injection which is the last injection you get prior to egg pick up and its very thick and does sting alot - hey but i guess thats nothing compared to labour! What we woman do to get what we want -there is no end. I honestly do not think a man could do this. Sending everyone :hugs: and :bluedust:

Thanks everyone- you are a fantastic group of women!:) :) :)
I just feel so down every time I get my AF and then think- who am I kidding??? Why keep TTC etc, but come day 3 and I am ready to give it another shot. The whole thing is torture physically and mentally but we know how worthwhile it will be when we succeed:)
Sorry to get any one down, I was at a dark point the last 48 hours and then my AP rang full of optimism and saying my temps looked great and I'll get there. Then I wonder if all these APs are saying this as it's keeping them in business??( cynic!):p
I am sorry we are all on this board but simultaneously it's opening up opportunities for us all to share with people in our unique situation. I don't know anyone I can really talk to about all this, my DH is tired of all the stress but not willing to let me quit yet. My Dr is still positive but I'll have reduced contact with him after 1 August and my AP is still hopeful. However, my friends don't know or understand my quest and need and probably think I'm insane still ttc after so many failures:p
Thanks everyone... Pam- I know about feeling rundown after m/c . I had a Chinese lady make up a foul tasting concoction I had to boil up and drink 2 x a day between m/c 5 and 6 and I felt much better. After the last m/c i didn't have it and now I wish I had, I also got pg 3 months after m/c 5 whereas this time it's been 7 months and no action.
I wonder if I'm doing the right thing having the lap? Should I use this month to ttc as I'll be one month older again? Will a lap mess up my cycles?
Jo

Hi girls, Jo are they looking for something specific as far a the lap goes? Or is it just in case? Its a hard call I guess you have to go with your gut feeling,but if you don"t think anything is wrong maybe you should leave it and try your herbs again. I'm going to have a go at Hypnotherapy hopefully it can get me back on track emotionally and eating well again. And depending on the specialist I may have a go with Chinese herbs. Willing to try just about anything don't want to waste too much time.:)Pam. :bluedust:everyone.

Hi Pam,
I've had endometriosis for years since I was 15 y o, diagnosed by a lap at 19 years! and after the last m/cs I started getting a lot more pelvic pain again, so Dr wants to have a look and remove endo if it's there as it can affect your fertility.
Jo

HI Jo,
My family has alot of endo, my second eldest sister was diagnosed with it at 18 whilst she was in the UK no one in Australia had picked it up she had had it for years prior to that she rushed back to australia and after 3operations and half her bowel removed (no bag thank god) she was told she would never have children then low and behold 3months later she was pregnant and has a beautiful 25yr old daughter but unfortunately they now think it is heridity and her daughter has had 6operations in 5years! Unfortunatley she is one of the worst cases they have ever come across and she has a gene they have discovered that just keeps producing endo - they say she will post probably not fall pregnant naturally and her best chance now will be IVF, she doesn't even want children yet but is being pressured into it by doctors and her mother, if feel for her as she is not ready for kids yet but does want them one day- she is living with a nice young man but they haven't even thought of marriage yet. Endo is such a horrible thing, i hope to all hope that your endo has not returned, they do say that after having kids it most likely does not return however my sister at the age of 48 got horrible pains again a few months ago and has just undergone another operation - unbelievable you think that after all these years of her being endo free why would it come back 20odd years later? I say go for the lap you can't waste time - just make sure no more endo - i know its another month older but at least if you go down the lap road you can cross all the "t's" and dod all lthe "i's" and have peace of mind with your endo. Anyway its really up to you Jo - but i say go for it, and i did read a thread before about laps and alot of women fall preg after laps. Anyway Jo good luck with your decision - i know its a big one - just go with what you feel if right. I pray every night for all of us (and im not even religous!)
I want us all the have BFP that would be the best lotto present of all.