The best way to cope with other people's pregnancies/babies?

[S'rose]

I'll share with you something I use time and time again with babies & friends...
I remind myself that I wouldn't wish my journey on anyone else, especially not someone that I love.

Good friends accept that this is hard on those still waiting for that blessing. It's important that if you want to tell them you're not coping, that you do it with love and then they won't feel like you are pushing them away because of what they have rather than the fact that you desire to have the same.

[Possums]

Thanks everyone

Srose- good point...it's largely the pain /reminders of my losses that gets to me

[mona10]

Dear Possums

I feel your pain deeply in my soul as I am going through exactly the same situation. My best friend is expecting her 2nd baby while I am still struggling to have my first. We're nearly the same age, I am a few months younger than her, and we started trying to have a baby at the same time about 4 years ago.

I am really really happy for her and her family. The same time I wish I have half of her luck. I think the best option is to tell her how I feel and hope she understands.

It's nearly impossible to maintain the same friendship as her focus changes to her children. We will have to move on, enjoy and live the best of our life.

Hope you're feeling better and wish 2010 will bring you a baby.

Lots of love

Brenda

[Possums]

Thanks Brenda for the support and understanding...I am sorry for your struggles and hope 2010 brings us both a baby in our arms - it must be very hard for you with your friend also

[mona10]

Hi Possums,

I have gone through a lot as you did, which I wish no one else would go through the same painful experiences.

My wise friend suggested to enjoy other people's kids. I will give it a go this year and hope it will make me a happier person.

Lots of Love

Brenda