Hey BakingGirl,

We don't have the same age factor as you guys, but I remember when DH and I began going to see fertility specialists and feeling totally overwhelmed by the whole process. At times I felt pushed to do treatments I wasn't sure about, at times I felt like they weren't taking us seriously and weren't really doing anything to help us.

I think it is hard for a specialist to see us as individual cases who need individual care and guidance, rather than just another couple that they have to get a bun in the oven ASAP, regardless of what they have to do to get there.

We have been given that ultimatum - ICSI or nothing. But after almost a year on other treatments, we were prepared to hear it. Had it come earlier in our struggle to conceive, I think we would have been quite unprepared for it, and it would have been quite shattering, quite overwhelming for us.

I think also, the specialists know they have to act fast for you guys. It is hard to see the positives sometimes, but that is a good thing - you wouldn't want them to stuff you around for a while first - the clock is ticking and they understand that.

I don't know that I can say anything to really help you, I just wanted to reply to your post and let you know that I think it is totally normal to feel overwhelmed by the whole process.
All the best with whatever you choose to do,
Michelle