Hugs Alex,
I know how you feel about the birthday party thing, I get that all the time. Friends who always get together because they have kids and we dont get invited, also the b/d parties "for kids". So, are we supposed to only hang out with people TTC?????? If you are a grandparent you should only party with others who's children have reproduced??? While it is really hard attending these things and sometimes we might want to say no, we DO want to be invited!!! How hard it it going through all this AC stuff? Man, it sucks in so many ways!
Hope things get less stressful for you soon so you only have to worry about ironing!
Sazz