Do you find this insulting?

[sushee]

On the outside, it seems easy enough to say 'why should anyone care how anyone else conceives'? Or to wonder why anyone would be insulted. But to a long term IVFer, to whom the world can sometimes seem full of injustice, to hear that a fertile couple, by virtue of their money or their status, would use IVF for the sake of the 'fashion statement' of having twins, would and does upset. These are people who would give their right arm to be so lucky as to have one child naturally, who wish they would never have had to undergo IVF. For them to see IVF used as a matter of convenience and vanity, trivialises the very real, very raw journeys many IVFers are going through.

So yes, I imagine it then upsets them to hear people telling them that they have nothing to be upset about, because they do have a legimate reason for being upset.

ETA I don't think even one LTer who's posted in this thread is concerned by anyone who voted that they were not insulted by this topic. In fact, many (including me) voted that they weren't insulted. But when it is suggested that those who voted that they were insulted should perhaps 'concentrate on their own lives', 'not concern themselves with what others are doing' or that it's 'bizarre' that they would be insulted, that's an attack on their very personal reaction borne out of their difficult circumstances. I don't blame them for being upset. I'm upset on their behalf.

[Neenee Jellybeanie]

I'm not insulted but I don't agree with it either, for all the reasons that have already been said. If there's a natural alternative, it seems frivilous to use a difficult medical method, though it sounds to me like anyone who WOULD do that probably isn't informed on the reality of it (such as the fact that it doesn't guarantee a twin pregnancy). I can completely understand how one would be insulted if they'd been through IVF. It must be awful to go through that, particularly if it's been a difficult journey, and then see others doing it for no real reason. I don't think that fertile couples should have access to fertility treatments no matter how big their bank balance. The other thing is, I don't agree with someone deliberately having twins because of the extra complications that can arise.