Do you find this insulting?

[briggsy's girl]

ditto sushee - i was thinking the same!

having the money to be able to pay to have your child doesn't show you love them any more or less than a naturally conceived child. some of the best parents i know struggle to get by week to week - and others that have money to throw away frivolously aren't all that great as parental role models. a child isn't a fashion accessory that you should "pay" to have, and certainly paying doesn't make you love them any more - it doesn't show a strong desire to have another child - it shows an attitude of getting what you want simply because you can!

if you have the capacity in your heart to love, you'll love your child no matter what. my children, when i have them, will be loved irrespective of whether they come from IVF or a quick roll in the hay with DH. that is the kind of love you should have for a child - not the kind of love that is conditional on you "getting it all your way"...

[Ca Plane Pour Moi]

I don't think I'd feel any differently about DS if I'd have "paid" for him. I have enough love for more babies, and the joy is I don't have to worry about not being able to pay the mortgage or dying in the process of conceiving. That's wonderful for me and I am very blessed to have that - but that doesn't lessen the love I have for him or any potential future child.

This has been so eye-opening and tbh people do need to know more about the specifics of IVF - AND the specifics of what can be done in which country. OK, so Australia has a good record, the US is concerned more about money (now there's a shocker).

Thank you all so much for sharing your stories, ladies, no matter how insulted and hurt you are feeling about this issue.