ditto sushee - i was thinking the same!

having the money to be able to pay to have your child doesn't show you love them any more or less than a naturally conceived child. some of the best parents i know struggle to get by week to week - and others that have money to throw away frivolously aren't all that great as parental role models. a child isn't a fashion accessory that you should "pay" to have, and certainly paying doesn't make you love them any more - it doesn't show a strong desire to have another child - it shows an attitude of getting what you want simply because you can!

if you have the capacity in your heart to love, you'll love your child no matter what. my children, when i have them, will be loved irrespective of whether they come from IVF or a quick roll in the hay with DH. that is the kind of love you should have for a child - not the kind of love that is conditional on you "getting it all your way"...