do you sometimes find it hard to cope?

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Julie- I am so very sorry it has to be so hard...and you can't just start trying to move forward.

I am going to tell you about a past experience of mine, not to further alarm you, but perhaps just give you information which could be relevant:

When I had my ectopic pregnancy, they initially told me I was having a miscarriage, as I had a sac in my uterus and was having bleeding. My OB performed a curette when I was about 8 weeks (this was after weeks of being unsure whether I had a viable pregnancy or not, checking HCG levels etc, and then the hospital ED telling me I was just going to miscarry...eventually I got fed up with the public system and that is when I first went to my Ob). The material was sent off for testing.

About a week later and the findings of those tests alarmed my doctor, as there was not placental material (I had bled quite heavily and it could have passed already- the sonographers had been sure I had a uterine pregnancy)...he thought that was abnormal and sent me for an HCG test, which showed my levels were still elevated.

He immediately thought I probably had an ectopic pregnancy and at that stage I had developed SEVERE cramps- the pain was pretty bad. So I was given an ultrasound which showed bleeding around an ovary, near the end of the right tube. I was sent in for emergency surgery the next morning and he removed the ectopic and my right tube and said I was very very luck it had not ruptured, saved only because it was leaking out of the tube a bit (sorry if TMI).

So my ectopic was missed until about 9 weeks, and the bad pain probably started at about 7 weeks (i thought it was the miscarriage at the time)..on and off, before getting so severe.

So, it is possible you could have an ectopic. However, normally pain is associated with ectopics. I really hope you do not Julie. Like I said, sorry if my story is alarming, but I know you are like me, and like to know all possible scenarios and facts etc.

Thinking of you, I am sorry it's so hard...be gentle with yourself. the stress of not knowing now is hard to handle