Hi There,

I'm not sure if I can add anything more than whats already been posted by the others, but if you could suggest even a read through BB she might see that she's not on her own.

I have never suffered depression (that I'm aware of)... but I do know that what I have been through at certain points on my IVF cycles have been nothing short of horrific - and no other emotion even comes close to it.

If it helps, I can tell you that my DH and I have a brilliant relationship - I coudn't be more content ....however, EVERY time we cycle, I have gone through a point where I feel like its not working, and have felt like we have issues.
We don't, but its the drugs, honestly.

It makes you think crazy thoughts, and it makes you do silly things - Its horrible, and at the time, you honestly believe the emotions you're feeling.
(I can't imagine depression on top of that, and how hard that must be..)

I went through stages the first 2 cycles where I thought along the lines of your wife - maybe it was bringing up underlying problems in our relationship that were there but I didn't know it - It has taken me a further 2 cycles to realise thats not the case - its just the way I am when I'm cycling (Yay for my hubby, hey? )

The best advice I can give you is to just push through it - As soon as the drugs are out of her system, I can tell you things will improve!

As for her not feeling like going anywhere or wanting to do anything, I can identify with that too - I always just feel so feral and fat and cranky when I'm cycling (I spend the whole cycle in track pants because my tummy is too swollen to fit into normal clothes) - add being tired - plus I try to avoid seeing anyone that I know when I'm waiting for a result, because its hard to know what to say to them when you have no clue yourself... and you feel like you have to make an effort to 'be positive' when you just don't feel that way at all!
Its easier to steer clear of anyone and just deal with yourself...

By now, that last pregnyl shot should be almost out of her system, and you should be noticing a change for the better!!!

Hoping for a positive result for you both on this cycle - stay strong, and know there is loads of support from all of us here on BB

Holly