Friends and Family Supporting LTTTCers

[Kahlan]

WARNING - Parenting, pregnancy and children mentioned

I've just found out this morning that my SIL's IVF attempt was unsuccessful.
I am so very devastated for her, I just don't know what to say to her.
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Hi Janine, so sorry for you and your SIL. Through all my ups and downs of failed cycle, I found what really helped me was when my girlfriend (the only one I told) was just there... she didn't say much. She cried when I cried and we did a lot of hugging... she just listened while I spoke about my fears, doubts, pain...even about how much I hated the situation I was in and sometimes I ranted on about unrelated things as well....she always comes during BT times (she later told me) just in case I needed a shoulder to cry on....so yes sometimes we feel we have to say something but in truth silence empathy speaks louder than any words we could utter. I pray that your SIL's dream come true one day.

[Mak]

*pg warning*

Hi - just wondering how others have helped support LTTTCers when they are pregnant? My sister has had a difficult journey to get pg and I am stunned by the bluntness and 'get on with it' approach that many of her 'supportive' family use. I have had a few friends that have been LTTTCers and as far as I can see it really is a lifechanging experience. I am concerned for her as she is extremely stressed (understandably) and quite fearful of giving birth - thanks also to the us tech who told her the baby was big. Any suggestions of support/ideas to help her. She is not interested in birth classes or any formal information. We have moments of openess about it all - lead by her - but I have limited info only based on my experiences. I suffered from PND with DD1 - I am concerned she will have a similar experience also (seems to be a family thing unfortunately) and I would do anything to help anyone avoid that especially as she has had a difficult enough road to get here.

Thanks