Thanks ladies. I spoke to DH last night. I asked him, what are we going to do... he just said, it's a waste of a life isn't it?

I think that about sums it up. Like you, neither of us are comfortable with leaving our little frosty "to perish" Mildez. It is a personal decision and it's a tough one.

Miss B I completely understand when you say that you don't think you have the energy - I had my first DS at 22 and my second at 37 completely different pregnancies as I felt every bit of carrying the load as such during my second pregnancy. Just walking from the train station to work took me an extra half hour each morning!! (I just noticed from your signature that our little ones are 13 days apart!)

I thought I would visit my gp to get a referral to the clinic - I believe they last up to 12 months - and then maybe make an appointment with the clinic so I can talk to them about it.

I'll take little steps for now....