How did you decide?

[Cass72]

Well, it's been two years since our successful ICSI IVF transfer and our LO is sixteen months old.

I've just received my invoice for storing our 3 day blasty for another year. I've been thinking about it a lot lately but I don't know if I really want to go back onto the IVF rollercoaster. But if I don't, what do I do with my blasty? I can't, in all conscience, let it go. I've heard that some people donate, but I don't know if I can do that either (call me selfish but I can't help it).

I guess I'm feeling the age thing too - I turned 39 last week - so I don't really want to put it off anymore if we do decide to go ahead.

[LizLemon]

It's a hard one isn't it. We're about to have our second through IVF and have (I think!) 3 blasties on ice. While we have said that we might try naturally for a third but not go back to IVF, we will still keep storing for a while yet.

I guess we are basing that on keeping our options as open as possible. As much as I don't want to I wouldn't completely rule out giving our blasties another shot, and I don't think I could donate them while our family is incomplete (even if we are trying naturally), does that make sense?

The fact that you are even asking the question says to me you aren't ready to let your little frosty go yet, so I would keep it on ice for awhile...

[Miss.B]

Cass, that is a really hard one hun. In our first cycle we had a total of 2 good embryos, one was fresh transfer (successful but the pg eneded up as a late loss) and the second embie was put on ice for approx. 12 months and then we used that embie which then became my LO who is now 15 months old. We are hoping to do another round of IVF very soon as we would dearly love 2 earth side babies, and I often wonder what would happen if we were lucky enough to end up with a couple or more good embies......naturally we'd put one in and if the others were suitable for freezing we'd freeze them. But then......would we? I'm 41 now and I don't think we could handle a 3rd child at our ages (please no offence to the lovely older ladies TTC, my energy levels are shocking now!!lol). So basically I don't know what I would do with our left over embies if we had them (my FS will only transfer one and one only as he is very weary of twin pg at my age).
Do you want to have another child or two? If you do, use up your existing embie(s) when you're ready. As for the rest of the embies? Another option is to donate them for science. I think if we had some spare ones I woul probalbly do that, as I don't think I could donate them. Oh I don't know!! Maybe I couldn't do that either! GL hun, I hope you can work it out and come to a decision both you and your DH is comfortable with.

[Mildez]

From your post it sounds like your undecided so I'd be inclined to leave snowbub on ice a little longer. If you don't want to ttc using it down the track I have heard of it been an option to have your embies placed in you at an infertilie time when it wont be possible for them to implant. Although we were going to donate ours to another couple if we had any on ice I like the sound of that over leaving them to perish or donating them to research. Its a completely personal decision but. Best of luck.

[Cass72]

Thanks ladies. I spoke to DH last night. I asked him, what are we going to do... he just said, it's a waste of a life isn't it?

I think that about sums it up. Like you, neither of us are comfortable with leaving our little frosty "to perish" Mildez. It is a personal decision and it's a tough one.

Miss B I completely understand when you say that you don't think you have the energy - I had my first DS at 22 and my second at 37 completely different pregnancies as I felt every bit of carrying the load as such during my second pregnancy. Just walking from the train station to work took me an extra half hour each morning!! (I just noticed from your signature that our little ones are 13 days apart!)

I thought I would visit my gp to get a referral to the clinic - I believe they last up to 12 months - and then maybe make an appointment with the clinic so I can talk to them about it.

I'll take little steps for now....

[Cass72]

An update..... I spoke to the clinic today and asked what treatment I would undergo for a transfer of our blasty. They told me it would most likely be HRT so we could time it (my blasty is in Perth and we are in Canberra so I'll have to fly over). I will also be able to have a phone interview with the doctor in the west and get my bloods/scans done here. It all seems too easy! I told DH and he seems to think it's all good now we just have to save up some money!