Emma, you wouldn't believe how many of those thoughts have been going through my own head lately! I'm also taking a bit of a break after back-to-back cycles earlier this year. Right now I'm trying to decide between cycling again in Sept or Nov/Dec (acupuncturist's recommendation). It's tough. And (believe it or not) I've had the same thoughts about the overseas holiday! My only advice for you is that I think you really need to be ready to try again. IVF can be so gruelling, I tend to think it's too much strain (on your body, your relationship, your wallet, etc) to embark on a cycle if your heart's not in it.
Best of luck with your decision. And FX for that surprise natural BFP.
Possums - you are still young enough that the few months shouldn't matter. It sounds like you really want to take the break and go away, so I think you should do that..if, as you say, you can really forget everything (mostly forget) and enjoy yourself and not wonder "what if I had done a cycle". And you never know, you have conceived naturally in the past despite what the doctors have said.
Thanks Julie...and congratulations again on your pregnancy...I really hope it's a healthy 9 months for you this time. I know it's a really nervous time for you at the moment.
I know where you are coming from, I am thinking the same thing - and flying away on a plane can seem the best thing - especially when everyone around you is pregnant.
Making the decision to get off the IVF rollercoaster is very hard and well done to you and DH for making the tough decision to have a break. I found that once we had made that decision I felt an enormous weight lift off my shoulders. We decided to just go natural with AP and herbs and managed a pg after only 5 months of serious trying. While I don't have the tubal problem you have, I think the mindset and reduced stress played a big part in falling pg. Previously we had been told that the only way we would have a baby would be through donor eggs!
So I guess what I am trying to say is that you might benefit from walking away from IVF at this time. I understand that money is a big issue with the date of 1 Jan looming, but there are no guarantees that another cycle would make the difference. Remember, 30% of couples who do IVF walk away with no baby. If taking the time (and money) to have a break and go overseas is what you and DH's relationship needs, then invest your time and money there would be my recommendation. IVF will always be there and you are still young.
I hope you come to a decision that is the best for you both, and you never know, your next BFP could be only weeks away! Never say never!
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