IVF and the child/children you already have?

[diva det]

if the information that you have told her is upsetting her, then I would limit what she knows, until she can handle what she has been told so far.
make it fun for her - buy something that she can only play with when you have to go to the doctors. Reassure that you will be Ok - maybe she is thinking that you are gonna die or something another child has told her or seen on TV.
speak to the counsellors at IVF, they are trained to handle all sorts of things, and may have advice for you
good luck!
odette

[nic]

Trish, I've only googled very quickly for some books, but am yet to find something. I will keep searching

Maybe she is scared something really bad is wrong with you and she is scared of losing you. Maybe tell her Drs are doing some tests to help you have a new baby. Tell her you are 'well' but you and daddy need Drs to help you. Tell her about the injections - it is not because you are sick but to help make your body get ready to make a babyarching though.

This is what I thought also, that she is thinking the worst. I really like all you have written here, I think it is a perfect explanation

DH originally did not want to tell DD, because he was worried that she may not be able to handle or understand if our first attempt is not a success. I think it would be good to not let her know about transfer or TWW's like you said.

Odette, When I spoke to DD's teacher this morning, I asked if the school has a counsellor, and they do! At the moment DH is on nightshift, so when he woke this arvo he was hit with all of it poor thing. I've had a chat with DD this arvo (went to a cafe for chips and gravy and slush puppies) and I am going to see how we go over the next couple of days, and will make an appointment with the school counsellor if need be.
DD did say that no one is upsetting her, or making her feel uncomfortable, and eventually she told me that she was worried about me being at home with my tummy. It took quite a bit of convincing that mum's tummy is all good now. She wanted to know if I still had a bruise and what my cut looks like now, is it still sore etcc..

Her teacher said she was upset until about lunch time today. She spoke to one of DD's closest friends and she said there is nothing going on ie, no infighting in their "group" or anything like that.

DH and I were only able to have a real quick chat about it all this arvo, and he agrees that we should now tell her what is going on.
This will definately be a handle with care conversation. We are planning on moving her into the spare bedroom when the time comes, so maybe we can focus on that, new bed, curtains, wall colours?

thanks again girls

Nic