I feel for you. It is a hard decision to make and its one that you need to work through with your DH.
Everyone will have different ideas of what to do, but in the end you must do what is right for you.
My DH an I are in a place where we have to make a decision too. We are taking a week to write down pro's and con's on a list. It was something I was taught to do when I was 18yrs old and it has come in handy often.
Maybe you could do a list like this. It helps make things a little clearer.
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