Thanks to BG, Lou, Rols, TL and Megan. Sorry that AF came TL.

When you said about the family holiday to me the other day Lou, i told DH and he just smiled all goofy. We thought it was the nicest thing to say. Then last night someone offered me a red wine and he nearly lept down their throat saying i wasn't feeling well and wasn't drinking. Talk about give the secret away.
Thanks to everyone for their great support in the times when i was really down in the dumps, or feeling sorry for myself, and for helping me understand this whole process so much better. The last 3 and a half years have been hard, but i have coped so much better in the last 8 months with all your practical and emotional support. Thank you all very much, and I'll try to sneak quietly out the door now, but I will be keeping a close watch on you all. Good Luck to everyone.
Jo