Kinda funny to be working it through both here and in my journal.
Decision made. I'm staying home tomorrow.
BW
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Kinda funny to be working it through both here and in my journal.
Decision made. I'm staying home tomorrow.
BW
it is definitely interesting working through issues on both threads - glad you've come to a conclusion. Looks like it will be a day of rest for both of us tomorrow - i gotta somehow keep myself under control with no panic attacks tomorrow - i've decided to focus myself on restarting TTC efforts after surgery, rather than thinking about the surgery itself (just hoping it works that way!!)
Hope you decided to have the day off BW ! Sounds like you need to rest and look after yourself.
SS - you're not alone - my DH and I fight all the time these days... it's terrible. I am putting it down to all the stress we're under at the moment. Our problem is MF and sometimes I get a bit resentful that I have to go through all of this because of him. I know that's harsh, but sometimes I just can't help it.
I hope everyone else is doing well.
I had my 1st u/s today and I've got 14 follies on one side and about 12 on the other! And they're big!! One is already 18mm and some others are 12-16mm. Apparently that's good?! No wonder I feel so tender and bloated. So, I'll probably be going for my EPU on Monday, thank God - I want them out, they're making me uncomfortable.
I'll have to do my trigger shot on Saturday night then... which means DH won't be around to do it. Bugger. I'm going to have to learn how to do it myself. I'm nervous!! I know lots of you have done your own, so I should stop being such a lightweight and just do it.
Sammi - sounds like you've got a good little stash of eggies there!! good luck with your trigger shot - even though i've been doing injections myself, i still get a little stressed each time i have to do them - do you have someone else that you would trust enough to do it for you if you find that you just can't do it?
i agree with the stress causing everyone to be a little more snippy than normal - i find myself being really short with DH all the time at the moment, and i know it's stress induced. i just can't seem to help it. He's so amazingly understanding though, and never fights back! in some ways, it's a godsend, but in others it's a pain - i reckon a decent yelling match would be really helpful about now!!!
hope you're all having a good day today - mine has started out bad and going from bad to worse. have my surgery tomorrow morning, and woke up an hour ago in the midst of an anxiety attack - yay - think it's going to be a really long day!
Hi all,
I'm always reading everyone's posts but at the moment I am just waiting waiting waiting for AF to arrive so I can start my first down reg cycle and then start moving forward. It's the weirdest TWW of my life! I really want AF to visit, and visit on time so i can get this show on the road! But then, i kinda don't want her to visit - could i get a BFP this month instead?? (unlikely after 3+ years of trying!). Anyway, she's not due for another 9 days, so i'm just getting anxious waiting.
BTW, i told DH about wanting AF, and not wanting AF, and he looked at me like i was mental and gave me a sort of "ok, crazy lady," smile. :rolleyes:
But i knew you lot would understand!!! :)
Jo
it's the worst kind of muddled up thought pattern, isn't it jo? you don't wantto give up hope that maybe your body will do what it's meant to, but at the same time you are pretty sure that it's not going to cooperate and you want to move forward instead of just WAITING! i can so sympathise with you Jo! fingers crossed that you get a BFP really soon
and i agree - DH's just don't get it, do they??
Thanks briggsy's girl :)
I know you (and others) are in a 'holding pattern' at the moment and are waiting for things to happen.
LTTTC'ers are very practised at waiting (the TWW, waiting for appts, waiting for hormones to kick in, waiting eggies to grow, etc etc) - But that doesn't make it any easier :)
waiting is one of the hardest things to do
i have become quite experienced at breaking down any wait into small milestones - had a six week wait from first FS appointment to starting treatment - and the longest wait between mini-milestones was only three or four days!!! there was always something short term i could focus on - dinners with friends, birthdays, days off work - and that six weeks just flew by!!! it's now the only way i can survive! i have my diary, and there's always something in there that i can focus on to get me through the short term stuff! at the moment, it's the surgery tomorrow, the follow up appointment with the surgeon next week, then hopefully only a week or two before can tell myself i'm back to optimum health to resume the TTC journey - so even though it might be another fortnight or mnth before my "holding pattern" resumes it's course, it's really only a couple of mini-milestones!
BG, just wanted to pop in and wish you all the very best for your surgery tomorrow.
I can't wait till it's all over so that you can get back to concentrating on ttc.
Good luck sweetie!
thanks so much Willow - i'm wih you - the sooner this is over the better!!
I just realised that I haven't been in here this month at all!
Summer - Bummer about your appointment having to be moved back to April. Hope the time flys by super fast for you. That's great that you have lots of shoulders to cry on at your new workplace too. Did you only just start there this year? I must have missed that info.
BW - Nice new AV there :)
Mel - Hope you have a super sticky embie on board there. :pray:
Big hello to everyone else. Hope you are all well. DH and I had a chat the other night and he wants me to go and get our FS referral renewed/updated, since it is about 2.5 years old. I had a bad week with finding out SIL is pregnant after having listened to how BIL didn't want anymore kids. Now we are getting the phone calls about how sick SIL is! But like it was said before, I would prefer this over them tiptoeing around us.
BG - Goodluck with your OP tomorrow. Hope all goes well :)
Nic
HI ladies, hope you don't mind me popping in, just after a bit of solace & company.
Butterfly- I hope you've taken the time off & you're enjoying the day.
SS- Sorry to hear about your appt. Hopefully today is a better day for you.
Sammi- great news re: follicles, they sound nice & big & ready to go. Good luck with the EPU. I haven't tried trigger shots, but am wishing you the best.
Jo- the confusion just makes the frustration increase. I hope your bod gets into gear soon and you get the BFP you hope for. Fingers crossed for you too.
Briggsys- I might take a leaf out of your book and fill my diary & be more active & 'out there'. Comes & goes. It's the quiet times when the mind wanders & thinks too much. All the best for your surgery too.
nic- hard to hear loved ones are expecting- esp. rellies. I hear you there. Wishing you much good luck.
Hi everyone else- :-)
Me- well again, hope you don't mind me popping in. I posted a thread earlier in the week, frustrated at the world & thinking rash thoughts. I'm at the very tip of this iceberg called 'assisted conception'. I've done only 1 IUI (drug-free), & this cycle I'm unlikely to ovulate due to non-growing follies, which I'm told is from stress. So more facials & massages to come methinks!
I wanted to jump on the IVF bus straight away, but I'm learning to take it step by step. DH is back mid-April then gone from mid-May till Sept. Hence I wanted everything to happen for IVF, appts, tests, while he's home. However after some re-thinking, instead of a mad rush (more stress), next cycle I'll commence Clomid to help the follies & stay with IUI until Sept. When DH returns in Sept & nothing happens, then we'll go to IVF. I haven't given it a chance yet have I? I just want it all.
So...deep breath.
Thanks girls, all the best to you.
Lou - i completely understand how hard it is to feel like you're sitting on your hands waiting for things to happen - it's got to be especially hard for you due to your DH being o/s. i really hope you can try the clomid when you cycle next time and get the results you want - and try to see things positively - don't look at september as "when nothng happens" - try to stay positive, and IF things don't happen for you, THEN look at other options. i can so sympathise with the struggle to stay positive - my DH used to be a long distance truck driver away for 5 or 6 weeks at a time (nothing like your four months at a stretch i know!) - then only home for maybe a week. he's talking about doing it all again, but 2 or 3 weeks on, 1 off - i'm really not liking that idea!!!!
good luck with the whole thing Lou. i'll be crossing my fingers that things go ok for you and keeping an eye on your process.
Thanks briggsy's girl-
Yes, IF, not when, you're right. See..not paying attention to what I write, still not thinking straight! I'm going to turn the focus back on to DH & I, rather than comparing ourselves to every Tom, D & Harry we know who's pg. IUI is the go for us, so onwards & upwards. Thanks for your advice. :-)
I did take the day off! And I'm still sitting here in my pjs at 4:30 as predicted! Feeling so much better physically, mentally, everything! I sooo needed a day to myself!
I've got a bit of a quandary about a baby shower I've been invited to... It's an old friend of mine whose baby is due in May. I've been pretty open about the IVF at church, which is where I originally met her. But, we also worked in the same place for a while, and I expect that some of my current work colleagues will be there - and that's a place I want to not know about the IVF unless they absolutely have to.
Lets complicate things even more. I'm due to start puregon on the 16th (:pray: for good blood test results this time!), and the baby shower is on the 31st. I was going to apply for an inservice on the 30th, but when I looked at the calendar, that's when I'm possibly going to be in the thick of things with EPU and transfer. I know I won't know the exact dates until much closer, but... It's a baby shower! I'm very weird in that I cope quite well with babies, but I just don't cope at all around pregnant women. Lots of thinking and considering ahead for me, I think.
BW
Hey everyone,
Hope you are all doing well, way too many people in here atm to do personals.
Well I am 7dpo IUI today & having absolutely no symptoms what so ever but I have a bit of a dilemma.
I have a wedding to go to tomorrow which I'm really looking forward to but I don't want to drink 'just in case' but what am I going to tell people because I'm sure some of them will notice?
I know the one time I do drink I'm bound to find out I'm pg & then worry for the next 9 months (I guess I've just answered my own question) so I guess I'll have to think of some excuse.
I just spent two hours at the hairdressers with her being 26 weeks pg & going on & on about how wonderful it is to be pg & this & that is happening, blah blah blah.
Of course I am happy for her but it really does hurt sometimes.
One more week of waiting to go & I'm on holidays atm so I figure it's going to drag.
Oh well I'm getting used to life being one huge waiting game (not just with ttc either).
Jo - 27 (treated endo)
Dh - 33
TTC #1 since June 2005
First chlomid / IUI Jan/Feb 2007 - BFN
Second chloimd / IUI March 2007 - (fingers crossed)
:pray: this will be the year!
YAY BW - how wonderful that you took the day off - and how good are PJ's - they are my favourite attire. Re the baby shower - if you know that you won't be comfortable then don't go. No point putting yourself through the stress. I would write a lovely note and send a little gift.
BG - best of luck with your op tomorrow - fingers crossed that everythign goes as planned and you will be back TTCing in no time
Lou - I will join you for those massages :) I know how hard the waiting is - DP and I have a new FS appt on 8 May which currently seems so incredibly far away and I am tearing my hair out in the mean time. Lets hope for you that the IUI work and you can surprise DH with the best gift ever when he comes home in September.
Hi everyone else
Me - I'm still in my neverending holding pattern (but learning so much about the whole process that I have to look forward to ferom everyone else) :)
BW - glad you've had a restful day - it sounds like it's done the trick to get you feeling a lot better - and don't fret about the pj's - i did the same!!! only just had a shower now so that i was dressed before DH got home from work (and isn't it all the way - you crave a long hot shower and the pilot light on the hot water service goes out!!!). with regard to the baby shower, i don't know what to advise you sweet. i've been put in the situation of being in the same reoom as a number of pg women, and i didn't cope too well either. i guess a lot of it would depend on how good a friend it is and whether you would be able to overcome your discomfort to be there cos they're one of your best friends... maybe talk it over with the friend herself - she knows what you're going through and would probably be really sympathetic of your situation...
Jo - there are lots of things you can say for why you're not drinking - and most people wouldn't pick up on it! you're driving home, you've had a stomach bug/gastro this week and don't want to push it! i'm sure you'll be creative!!! i tend to use the "i'm driving" thing most of the time - and if we're walking, we're usually at the house of a friend who knows we're going through treatment, so if i say i just don't want to drink, they let it go. i've become very well practiced at declining drinks fairly regularly over the past year or so (gotta love the dental surgery for some things - don't care who knows about that, so the idea of alcohol and strong pain killers not matching has been awesome!!) - so now if i decline a drink, noone seems to notice it at all! hey, there's an idea - you have a bit of a tooth ache (or any other type of ache) and taking painkillers or antibiotics and don't want to mix them with alcohol!!! enjoy the wedding
Taffy - the holding pattern thing sucks, doesn't it??? but the 8th of may isn't that far off, and i believe it's going to be a good omen for you (it's my bday!!)
as for me, well, as much as i don't want to, it's time to turn the computer off and get organised. would much rather stay here stalking the threads, but if i don't get organised, all i'm doing is delaying the inevitable. hopefully by this time tomorrow i'll be back home and curled up on the couch feeling miserable from the anesthetic and the op instead of feeling miserable from anxiety attacks like i am now. wish me luck girls - talk to you all soon
Good luck for tomorrow briggsy's girl.
BW, i was interested to read what you said about being good around babies, but not the pregnant women. I agree - i thought that was just me.
Jo - there are loads of good reasons to give why you aren't drinking. i used to stress about that too, but it's been 3+ years of saying (at gatherings) that i'm not drinking and no-one ever comments anymore. You can always use the 'liver cleansning diet' line - but then you can't eat all the yummy bad food :)
Jo, I always thought it was just me, too!
I think it's purely a self-protection mechanism. I know that in a lot of ways, the IVF and TTC struggle isn't so much about having a baby now, that aspect has been shoved off to the back of my mind. It's about becoming pregnant, and the fact that babies come from being pregnant doesn't really enter my head at times. The focus shifted somewhere along the way, purely to make it easier to cope and function. That may not make much sense, I know.
BW
You are absolutely right. Somewhere between day 1 of TTC and now, the goal has shifted from having a baby and starting a family, to just getting pregnant.
BTW, i have just found your TTC journal. Thank you for having the courage to write it all down - hopefully it has been therapeutic for you a bit too. You have acquired a lot of knowledge during your TTC years and there are a lot of people here who appreciate your support and willingness to share your ideas and wisdom.
Thanks, Jo. It's very sweet of you to say that. I've always had a passion for learning as much about my body and the many and varied health conditions I have suffered from, and the teacher in me insists on sharing that knowledge freely. It's really only been 15 months of TTC, but it feels like an eternity some days. Just thinking on the babies ok, pregnant women not ok thing... some days, babies and children are just too much as well! But as a general rule, I'll be much better around babies than I will be around pregnant women. I think part of that comes from the fact that I have several friends who have experienced difficulties TTC, and being around their children now reminds me that there is always hope.
BW
Hi lovely ladies!
Wishing you the best of luck for tomorrow BG. Hope all goes smoothly and you feel on top of things soon.
Jo, Mel and everyone on the TTW. Hope the time goes quickly and you get good news REALLY soon.
BW. Glad to see you did take the day off. Don't get guilty feelings about it at all. You surely needed it and you aren't much good in the classroom if you can't function so it probably was best for everyone!Hope you feel back to 100% soon.
Interesting about the pregnant women/babies comments. I haven't really thought about it all that much before now, but I feel exactly the same way. About the baby shower. I think you will find that everyone who knows your situation will be really sensitive to you but there will be others who might say the wrong thing. If you really dont want to risk your emotions, I would say dont go. I'm absolutely sure those who know will understand. I went to one a while ago and my friends were great but a mother who didnt know, said stupid insensitive things and I had to get myself together in the loo for a while...gggrrr.
As for the wedding, I would say something about health or medication. A diet? Painkillers? They are great excuses and I have used them both myself previously. Have a great time there!!!
Hope everyone is going ok today. Hope to catch up with more personals next time... Having trouble keeping up at the mo.!!!
big hugs from me, Sazz.
I've got a fantastic excuse for not drinking... it mixes badly with the medications I'm on. I never really drank much anyway, but when you're on three different meds that don't like alcohol, you really can't get near it. Doesn't help much for those of you who do drink sometimes, though.
Quick question for lucrin users - cramps = normal? I stopped primolut about three days ago, and ever since I've had abdominal cramping. There were two days of overlap between the lucrin and the primolut, and I'm sure hoping it's not related to stopping the primolut as I'm basically entering my 10th day of bleeding now. Sure, it's mainly been very light or just plain spotting, but the last thing I want is AF cramps and AF building back up to full flow again!
BW
Hi Lovely Ladies!!!
Just a quick pop in - wanted to wish BG all the best for today xxx
Hope everyone else is doing great, sorry for lack of personals, but don't have much time this morning!!!
As for me - Baby no 2 on our never ending list of family & friends having babies arrived yesterday.... still doing not too bad considering, but ask me again when ex hubby gives me a call with his news;)
DH & I had a big screaming match last night (only ever happens about once a year mainly, and is usually $$$ related!).
He has sensed me becoming impatient TTC naturally, and I guess with babies everywhere I look, think & breathe at the moment, its not helping!!!!
He told me he was a little worried as he thinks I'm becoming obsessed and thinking of nothing but TTC.... I know I am at the moment, but under the circumstances, wouldn't this be normal???!!!
When I said this to him, he got angry saying that It shouldn't matter how many babies there are around us - we shouldn't be bothered about anyone else except ourselves.
When I said that it was just a little hard to take atm, and that I was just so envious, he said he couldn't comprehend what I've got to be envious about - 1) We have got Luke & 2) It will happen for us so just wait until it does.....aaahhhh, sometimes I think that men just don't get it!!!!
I told him last night that he doesn't have to understand how I feel, he just has to be there for me....
Things are fine now - and we only argued for a little while before talking for a long time, so thats good, but sometimes I just feel like there just truly is noone that understands....
So great to have this forum otherwise I may have lost the plot by now!!!
Best wishes to everyone & hopefully catch up later on today sometime!!!
Holly
xxx
BW - Glad to hear you had yesterday off, sounds like it was a nice relaxing one too :)
Not sure what advice to give you about the baby shower.
Jo - Hope you have great time at the wedding this weekend, and no one questions why you aren't drinking.
BG - Thinking of you today. Hope all is well.
Big hello to everyone else.
Had planned on chatting with my DH last night, but had EWCM so BD instead!
Nic
GB - hope surgery went well.
Lushlou - I hope you're feeling a bit better. Sometimes it's difficult to keep on top of everything. Fingers crossed that you won't need to worry about any of it by September!
Jo - hope the 2ww isn't dragging too much for you. Hope it's a BFP at the end of it!! As for the not drinking, I know what you mean - I have a good friend's hen's day in the middle of what will be my 2ww on my 1st IVF. I don't know what to tell people... Maybe that you're on some medication that you can't drink with? I'm just worried about the questions because it's really not like me not to drink. If you come up with a great excuse please let me know.
BW - glad to hear you took the day off. Sounds like you had a lovely day relaxing. Hope you're feeling better soon! With the baby shower I think it depends on how good a friend it is. The last one I was invited to I made up an excuse that we had something else on. I just couldn't deal with it. I will see her soon at home now that the baby is born.
Hollybolly - I know what you mean about feeling alone. My DH & I argue quite a bit about all of this TTC stuff... they just don't understand how we feel. It's very difficult when you're wanting sympathy from them and they don't even understand why?! It is good that when they don't understand we have all the lovely ladies here to understand!
Hello to everyone else, sorry if I've missed anyone. It's hard to keep up!
Well I've got my EPU on Monday. I had my scan yesterday and I have to go for one more blood test tomorrow morning but they've told me it will be Monday. I've got 26 follies and they're big! I can't wait for it to be over. I'm feeling very tender and bloated and tired. I gave myself my 1st needle last night which was much easier than I thought - it didn't hurt at all. It hurt less than when DH did it! So now I'm feeling confident about giving myself the trigger shot on Saturday night.
Way to go on the needles, Sammi! Told you they didn't hurt at all. Watch the trigger shot, though - that one stings! I'm sure someone will have some tips on how to make it hurt less, though.
BW
Hi all,
Holly - sorry to hear about the fight, this ttc journey is just so stressful at times that of course you have every right to feel envious.
Keep your chin up & yes men just don't get it at times, I think it is hard for them as well but they just don't like to admit it!
Sammi - good luck with your EPU on Monday, 26 follies - wow I've never heard of that many b4 well done!
Nic - BD is so much better than just talking lol!
Well we have the wedding today & my face decided to break out in a few zits yesterday (I hardly ever get pimples) so I was a bit peeved but hey if it's me rather than the bride so be it, I'll take one for the team lol.
Have a great weekend everyone.
Jo - 27 (treated endo)
Dh - 33
TTC #1 since June 2005
First chlomid / IUI Jan/Feb 2007 - BFN
Second chlomid /IUI March 2007 - fingers tightly squeezed!!!
:pray: this will be the year!
Just slightly peeved, one of the reason we didnt want our other appointment time for the FS was we were getting a delivery, the company rings and says everything apart from one thing (of course the main thing Im waiting for!!!) isnt ready. So we had 2 choices really, get some delivered and paid a huge delivery fee or have it all wait for the other bit. So in fact if DHs results were in, we could have kept the appointment. I was like a raging bull when i was told and the $%^*$%&$ wont answer when I ring to "speak" with the company about it all. I was really looking forward to my new things too to keep me going.
I bought swimming upstream, DH didnt seem to thrilled when I said the parcel was for him!:rolleyes:
Im sorry sunny summer I know that everyone here on BB loved Swimming Upstream but both me and DH found it really depressing! Id rather read something thats going to make me feel positive- like YES! I can do this- Its going to work! Its just that I really need that kind of thing to keep me going as ridiculous as it may sound! The power of positive thinking I guess, cause Im already negative enough as it is and that book didnt do that for me! so don't be too hard on your DH if he doesnt want to read it- Ive found that DH's tend to be much more postive than there partner about all of this in my experience!
Thanks Kim. Ive read why me an infertility book and loved it, I would go to bed early and read it. I just have another one, something along the lines of Dealing with the baby gods which only arrived here the same day as swimming upstream.
I totally understand about being positive and not reading all the negs.
HI All
thanks so much for your thoughts today. i survived the surgery (and the massive anxiety attack beforehand) and was on my way home again by lunch time! have a bit of a fat lip, and still a fair degree of numbness - would have thought that, 10 hours after the surgery all of that would be gone, but i'm guessing there might be a little bit of bruising around the nerve endings that's causing me grief. normally they'd ask patients to take nurofen plus or something with ibuprofen in it to reduce the swelling, but it's not recommended with the metformin, so just taking panadeine. so far have only needed one at a time, but things are starting to get a little more uncomfy, so i'm pretty sure by bed time i'll be doubling it up!
not feeling particularly energetic at the moment, so no personals. hope you all have a great weekend...
BG, I'm glad you're out of surgery and feeling ok so far. You're right, the pain will be pretty bad soon enough! Hopefully you can get some time to relax and recover from all that stress and anxiety as well as the surgery.
Still feeling pretty tired myself... but so much better for having a day off yesterday! Although, I've definitely got lucrin side effects happening now - headaches, grumpiness, and just feeling generally out of sorts and short-tempered. It's not as bad as the synarel, though. One more week and we'll see how my levels are going and whether we can start puregon :crossfingers: Time is rushing by so quickly!
BW
BG, glad your surgery went well, hope you're feeling even better tomorrow! I'd keep the panadeine up even when you think you don't need it cause it can hit you really suddenly and then you have to wait for the pain to ease again! I learnt that the hard way after surgery to remove all of my wisdom teeth!
Quick update from me. Found out at 2.30pm yesterday that of our 15 eggs, 4 had made it to PGD testing stage, and from that we had one grade one embie. Had transfer yesterday, ( not by normal Dr, as he had another surgery, but by Dr Michael Gronow- any comments from anyone using him?).... So now the waiting begins :pray:
Hi Ladies
Wow everything is going on in here at the moment! I had to take notes as i was reading to catch up!!
Hollybolly - Completely understand the DH not understanding issue... mine was exactly the same until we got his results and then the tides turned big time.. to the point where the first thing he would say to me in the morning is what cycle day i was on and what we should be doing today.. Freaked me out a bit!!
BW - Extremely glad you took the day off for yourself and relaxed!!
BG - Glad to hear the op went well! And the panic attacks are over :) Definately keep those pain killers up.. i had 5 wisdom teeth removed 3 weeks ago and was told you heal a lot quicker with no pain.. look after yourself!
Sammi- VERY impressive on the needles front i am sure you will do great with the trigger tonight and just think the LAST needle!
EJE - Congrats on your tranfer yesterday lets hope he is very sticky.. good luck with the TWW!!
Anyone i missed hope you are doing great and have a great weekend!!
Well we are only 5 days into our TWW and it is dragging!!!! Hving quite a few side affects from the crinone i feel like i am carrying two watermelons on my chest, im sure they have almost doubled in size! Which is scary when you start with a EE! Arghhh!
Oh and i have the face of 14 year old.. i broke out horrible at work on wed..and when i got in the car cheeky DH had the nerve to say "Bring some friends home with you darl?"
Some bad news here to DH's grandfather passed away on Thurs so we are flying to Melbourne first thing tomorrow morning and then on to Bendigo for 3 days with the in laws..we are sharing a hotel room and car with them. Should be interesting?!!?
We have 1 day in Melbourne on Sunday by ourselves. Anyone have any advise on what we should do with our day? Whats there to see in Melb??
Have a lovely weekend!
BG I hope your feeling better today. Well done for getting it all over with. How come your not allowed to used nurofin or ibuprofin with Metformin? (I better remember this) Ive only had to take normal pandol so far.
BW You can come over and join in being at the grumpy house here. I dont feel like myself and this is only with this! Its scary the hell of of me and making me questioning the whole concept of doing ivf. So its not a place where im happy with right now.
EJE Hope that little eggie is the stickest for you and the tww passes quickly for you.
Shannon Im sorry to read about the passing of your DHs grandfather. As for what there is to do in Melb. there is lots! Do you want to do a normal toursit thing or want great places to shop?
Well this morning hasnt started off the best, Im feeling really confused about how my body is actually going to cope with IVF if im feeling like this on Metformin. DH also commeneted while we were watching BL and Munnalita, what are you going to do if they say that your too heavy for IVF and need to loose weight? Just keep kicking me while Im down. ANd then a massive fight about a speeding fine, so hes broken the golden rule and left without a kiss this morning, probably something which doesnt seem much to others but we ALWAYS say goodbye with a kiss, just in case something happens I guess is why we started doing it.
Summer, the grumpy comes and goes, and seems to relate to how tired I am. Not all FSs are as fussy as mine on the weight issue, and the fact that you are on the metformin, exercising, eating right and losing weight anyway is going to be a huge factor in your favour anyway. Seems to me you are both super stressed and that's what's causing the current rough patch in your relationship. Take some time out to spend with each other and NOT talk about any of the IVF/fertility stuff. Get back in touch with each other and relax. Try not to worry about "what ifs", just wait and see. Feels kinda odd giving you this advice, as this is always what my DH is saying to me, and I know sometimes it doesn't help because the issues are too big to get my head around, but most of the time it works. Focus a little more on the here and now, rather than the future.
Shannon, so sorry for the loss in your family. I hope being in close quarters with the in-laws isn't too straining, I know I don't cope very well with that sort of thing!
EJE, I hope that embie is super-sticky! :crossfingers:
BG, how are you feeling today? Hope you're not too uncomfortable. I'm another that's not heard anything about the nurofen and metformin thing. Although, most of the time I have to avoid nurofen as I'm generally on some form of naprosyn for the arthritis (both are NSAIDs). I have 4 doctors (GP, rheumy, FS and a close friend) that regularly review the meds I'm on and not one of them has mentioned metformin and NSAIDs being a problem. I do have a warning sticker on my metformin pack about aspirin, though.
Me... still bleeding! :rolleyes: It's becoming just plain stupid now. It is only light, but it's just gone on for so long!
BW
Shannon - so sorry to hear about DH's grandfather. i can sympathise with what you're going through. hope you're both coping ok
EJE - hope that little embie is super stickie for you! fingers crossed for you
SS - sorry to hear your struggling with the metformin. maybe talk to FS about the slaw release metformin. i was having severe side effects from the normal metforin twice daily to the point where i was ready to throw in the towel on the whole TTC thing cos i was so sick. spoke to FS who changed me to the extended release stuff, and i have so few side effects now, it's brilliant!!! they can also reduce the dosage (i was on 1700mg a day, back down to 1000mg now, and no big dramas). it's always an option! as to the weight thing, losing weight can help, but i was told it wasn't essential - just helps you to feel a little better in yourself. i've been doing the LOW GI thing and gradually losing weight, but i'm not fretting too much about it - putting pressure on myself to lose weight just made it harder!! and i completely understand the "golden rule" - DH and i do the same. never leave without a kiss, never hand up without i love you (he used to be on the road weeks at a time so we started that then instead of a kiss, and it's just kinda stuck now!).
The metfomin/ibuprofin thing is in regard to having hypo's - i was getting pretty huge hypo's even before the going on metfomin cos i have reactive hypoglycaemia (probably from the PCOS/insulin resistance) - had it pretty well under control with the LOW GI diet - anyway, after starting on the metformin, i had problems with headaches and stuff, and the doc said to take nurofen plus - started getting really bad hypo's again - and started getting worried about it so looked up the net and it says that NSAID's will create a higher likelihood of hypo's. stopped taking nurofen, swapped to panadeine when i needed it, and haven't hypo'd in over 6 weeks.
as for me - well, swelling got worse over night, which i expected. numbness has all worn off from my lips, so feeling a litte uncomfy, but managed to sleep most of the night without too many dramas. slept six solid hours, then took another pain killer and got another four hours of rest (not sleep, but hey, anythings better than nothing!). worst thing is that DH just wants to hold me and give me hugs to make me feel better, but any sort of pressure on my face on either side is really uncomfy, so he feels more than a little lost! he's going to go out and do some painting outside today to give me some peace, and i'm going to do sweet nothing all day i think - best way to recover is to get lots of rest!