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BW - i don't think anyone expects you to be an active member of a cheer squad at the moment. we're all more than aware of how hard it is to face what you've been through, and it's not expected that you put a false smile on and pretend to be feeling things that you're not. it's not a healthy thing, and it won't help you heal babe. it's a credit to you that you're venturing out, finding your feet again - please don't feel guilty for not jumping for joy for the progress of others
we understand that you are hurting, and eventually you'll be back to supporting us all - but for now, we're here to support you 100%
Thanks to everyone so much for your kind wishes. It really means such a lot to us.
Rols - thanks. You have been a bit quiet lately. DH was concerned about me telling you all as he was wondering how people would feel. I explained to him that we all love to hear other's good news - and it just reminds us how we'll all be announcing one day. Hope your DW is feeling OK.
Sarah - i did tummy. You can get a good grab of flesh, and i had to do it a couple of times in the car and at the clinic and I found it easier if you don't have to take your jeans off (just undo a button of two)
BG - ohhh, yay. You are getting your body to behave itself. Toes crossed for you.
Shan - i wish you didn't have to wait til Oct, but it'll be worth it for a less stressed cycle. Thanks for your kind words.
I'll try and leave now (it's only been 5 days ), but i'm finding it so hard not to be part of your journeys.
Best wishes to everyone. Jo
Jo - you can still drop in and play support person for us all until you're ready to fully leave! no one gets kicked out of this thread! we need all the support we can get!!
BG, you're making me cry again! Thank you for being so understanding.
Jo, please don't feel guilty, please enjoy this pregnancy and rejoice in the fact that you made it. I think I've learned now to enjoy every moment. Yes, it does sting a little to see someone going to the other side when I've just recently found myself back here, but it also gives us hope - and that's what this is all about, really. Know that I am really very happy for you, even though I've shed a few tears for myself at the same time.
Sarah, I did most of my injection on the tummy since I got a bit padding in there...sometimes on the bum when DH helps me so we can give tummy a break...good luck with it and I am sure soon you will be an old hand on this...
BG, what a good run for this cycle! Fingers crossed for you on Wednesday, how lucky you can have the week off, put your feet up after the IUI...
Sonya, I agree with what other girls said, mentioned it to your FS if you are concerned. Also do you know what your HCG level when they did your b/t? The level might give your an indication whether the embyro implanted or not...
BW, glad to see that you are feeling better today, I've noticed that you changed your signiture...3 snowbubs waiting...how exciting! Like Rols said, you will be pregnant before you know it...
BeiBei, I wish I had your confidence! Truth is, I'm absolutely crapping myself at trying again, even though I desperately want to. This is one time where I'm actually glad of being made to wait... however long it may be. Hopefully next week when we see the specialist again we can start to build up that confidence again. Funny how it's so much easier to believe in another person's success than your own. I do hope we get to walk that path together again, BeiBei, with a happier outcome for us both.
Bei Bei & BW - it is 18 months since we lost our second angel - and even though i'm actively cycling with the dream of being pregnant again soon, right now, my focus is on the process of "getting" pregnant, not "being" pregnant, because the fear is still very real. it is understandable that waiting is easier - you know that waiting doesn't increase the pain or the fear - it's something that you know how to do, and you know how to deal with it eavery day - hell, it's pretty much the norm isn't it? you will, as time goes by, come to a point where you have all the answers you can get, you are armed with the knowledge and the confidence to take that next step and try again - but until that day, don't beat up on yourselves for feeling fearful. your wounds are still very raw - give yourself time to heal - and one day that healing will have taken you down that path to being ready again
BW, I have gone down that road as well, it is very scary to think what it would be like to go through the first 9 weeks of pregnancy again...but ATM, I am trying not to focus on that...I am trying to focus on the fact that at least now I know I can get pregnant (one silver lining coming out of this tragic event), before I always wonder why I have never been able to get pregnant...now I know I can, so at least that's one thing to be crossed off my list...and one step closer to fulfil my dream...if there is a reason as of why it happened, I will know in two weeks time...I am sure you are on the way of finding all the answers as well...in time, when timing is right, you will know when to start again, like BG said, don't try to rush yourself...
For me, the road of TTC will be involved another stim cycle as I don't have any snowbub left...so it will be harder... I have been going through my diary of each day when I did the first cycle, telling myself that it is not hard to build my strength but I will take it a day at the time as well...
Don't look too far down the road yet, it might look very long and scary, maybe just look at the next two steps and take it one step at the time, it will feel a lot easier...
Sarah I also do my injections in my stomach - once you get the first one done it isn't that bad.
BG - that's great news. Nice & quick thats what we like to hear! I had my blood test this morning & am going back tomorrow for more blood tests & an ultrasound. Hoping that is good news & that the drugs are working. I hope everything goes well for you this time around.
Hi to everyone else - DH just got home so going to have dinner. Might get back on a bit later...
Ali - sounding very good hun - from what i can remember (and it was six months and lots of info ago!) - they wouldn't call you in for an u/s unless your hormone levels were looking pretty good - they dont want to "over cook" the eggs, so you'll have your bloods and u/s tomorrow to confirm that your results are showing an appropriate number of follies, and then hopefull you'll be joining me in athe TWW soon!!
if memory serves, if all was good at the u/s i was told i'd probably be asked to stop all meds and have trigger either that day or the next, and the IUI the day after trigger (but i can't confirm this cos my body is useless at following conventional treatment, so my IUI's with synarel were cancelled after 2BT's and no response)
best of luck for tomorrow hun - have my fingers crossed that we'll be keeping each other company in the TWW thread by the end of the week!
BW and BeiBei...you are amazing! I'm still stuck in the waiting for AF thread...I will get back here...I will...come on AF leave everyone here alone and come visit me!!!!!
Hi All, I am overwhelmed by the amount of reading I could do on this site. Just wondering if anyone has experienced the same problem as us. My u/s and bloods were all normal however my DH had SA done and slow motility which should be >50% but his was 40% and we have been referred to a f/s but havent made an appointment yet. We are unsure what can be done about this, obviously if they are slow movers they are not reaching the egg in time. Has anyone else experienced the same problem?
If so, do you know what a f/s might suggest? Thanks I really appreciate your response in advance.
oxox
my goodness Ellie - hasnt that B!TCH come and seen you yet!!!! go buy some white pants and white underwear and go to a lovely dinner. that will tempt her out of hiding. Af always pops in when im wearing white in public and unprepared....
BG - great news for tomorrow hun..
BW - your pain is going to be raw for a long time hun... we all understand that where someone has joy another has pain. take care of yourself
Jo - woo hoo again! just cant help saying that (again)
TraceyLee - are you still around? how are you holding up?
Me - saw FS today. he said me being violently ill for 3 days was the cause of me not being pregnant. he said it sounds like embie stuck around for a bit but the virus stopped my body sustaining the pregnancy. so a little sad i had an early miscarriage, but glad that embie did stick, even if only for a very short time. i start my day 12 BT's next monday and aiming for another natural transfer about the 10 august...
sonya, i'm so sorry to hear that you had an early loss - but i'm sure you feel a sense of relief knowing that you have an explanation for what happened
We're in a relatively similar position. My wife has checked out OK, same as you, but I've got iffy morphology as opposed to motility, although my first couple of tests had poor motility as well (things improved each time for some reason).
Fortunately things seem to be fairly straight forward with assisted conception where the problem is the male's, and where it's not too severe. If you can't conceive naturally IUI or IVF are likely options. With motility less than 40%, it is still very possible to conceive naturally, but generally takes longer and lowers the odds per month from the usual 20-25% to a lesser percentage.
Volume, morphology, count, and other factors are all as important as motility so you need to know what those factors are as well to get the full picture. In any event, if you've checked out OK, and your DH only has low motility (quite common) then it's certainly not time to panic. You'll get there!
Long Term TTC & Assisted Conception ~ July 2007 #3
), but i'm finding it so hard not to be part of your journeys.
Jo
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