Ellie - Whilst I don't know the full story I'm 100% behind Kotare, you, your wonderful man and your gorgeous blasties are what matter most right now, so lock the door, batten down the hatches and flip the bird to the world!!!

Tell them you have gastro, or the house is being renovated, or you've been taken up by alien life forms, if they love you they won't ask why, and if they don't love you then it won't matter if you offend.

IVF is hard enough as it is darl, and it's not cheap either so make this time all about you and your man and those blasties, they'll be time enough to kiss and make up when your preggers ...

Huge to you.