Hi. Im new to this all but have got to a point where I really need some support.
Im 25 and my husband and I have been ttc for 12 months. I have had cysts on my ovaries in the past but recent blood tests have all come back normal and a recent ultrasound showed my ovaries to be of normal size and there was a dominant folical developing in my left ovary. After coming off the pill I got a period after 3 months then never got another. After 6 months my doctor prescribed primolut n and I got a withdrawal bleed. I then got AF after 6 weeks. I have had AF again five weeks after that. I am now waiting to see if it will come again.
I guess my question is where to next? My doctor seems to take the your young lets wait and see approach. But I'm feeling like 12 months is a long time and overall even if you take the baby part out of the equation things just don't seem right. Is 12 months really that long or do I need to relax and let nature take its course! I see my husband dissapointed with each negative test and I am at a lost as to what to think. How can we stress about the chance of accidently falling pregnant for so many years only for it to be so hard once we want to!
You are well within your rights to want to take things further. For someone of your age, 12 months is the amount of time they recommend before further investigations so go for it. We (DH an I) are a bit of an extreme case but I was on depo for a few years and after coming off it, my period just never came back. And I (and my GP) assumed that was all the problem was. Boy were we wrong!! I don't want to scare you because everything may well be absolutely fine for the two of you but, from experience, I would hate for a couple to try and try for years to no avail when a few tests early on in the piece may have revealed something that could be dealt to. Be insistent with your doctor and if he/she refuses to listen and do anything, may be time for a second opinion.
Thank you so much for your advice and support. My DH and are planning to go into the doctors together. Maybe a united front will help show we are serious. I hope all goes well with you! Thanks again.
hi there keta,well i feel your pain i am in the same boat cysts and all the only difference is i have been trying for 3 years,trust me when i say my doctor tried to give me the your young approach too and you need to stand up for yourself and demand they investigate further its your body so you yourself know if something feels weird and want it looked at,it took me nearly 2 years and 2 wrong doctors to finally see a good fertility specialist and finally i am starting to get some answers but it wasnt until i made that push,as for your husband i know it can be heartbreaking my husband is in the same place its hard,thats why i think you need to investigate more ,i felt the same great after 8 years of trying not to accidently get pregnant now i want to i catn it jsut doesnt seem fair but trust me there are amny more tests they can do and its a case of ask and you shall recieve jsut keep pushing and make them do what you want and fingers crossed you soon get sosme answers xoxoxox keep your head up
Thanks so much for your support Bellabee84. I typed out a long reply to you but it hasn't come up! Who knows what I did. Haha
I was very nervous about joining the site but am really glad I have. I have a lot of friends that would be happy to listen and talk but they tend to fall into two categories - pregnant/have a baby or nowhere near the baby stage. It is nice to knw others out there know what it is like. Though it sounds like you and your DH have been through much more than us. Three years is a long time and I hope with all my heart you have a positive outcome soon!
AF is due any time from now onwards for me (if it follows last cycle). My fingers are crossed I don't go back to nothing. I think I would rather AF than limbo. When it all first started going haywire a doctor suggested I take a pregnancy test every week. Wow that was expensive and rubbing salt in the wounds. I think I'll wait another week, test then go to the doctors. My new doctor mentioned Clomid last time I went but seemed reluctant. I did not know anthing about it so didn't push. Im hoping to educate myself a little more then go armed with info and my DH for support. She is an obgyn so Im hoping a little more proactive than my past gp who when I went concerned that I had not had AF for 6 months suggested my concern was I didn't feel like a woman! Nope just concerned that it is not normal - especially when my cycle before the pill was only 14 days. Oh well, heres to renewed confidence on my part thanks to this site. I'm going to trust my body and push for further investigation.
Hope both you girls are going well and thank you so so much. xxx
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