T-Hopes my naturopath told me the same thing to have 3 months off as my body is use to DH sperm and the DNA in it so she said if we use condoms for 3 months then try my body will think it is a stranger and more likely accept the sperm she said married women are more likely to get pregnant from an affair or stranger than there own husband because the body likes new DNA like the animal kingdom they will breed with multiple partners for the best and strongest DNA and usually the strongest make it but there is no way i could use condoms or not ttc i would go crazy so i stopped going to her i do email her from time to time but i get all my herbs from overseas.
hi all, porshe-yes,they will still need a sample from dh,my dh had trouble with this,clinic was very -supportive of the situation though...happybaby-sorry af came...saffy-ivf clinic usually have councellors you can access...t-hopes-hope this is your month...alice-thank you...afm-feeling a bit better about going to the toilet now,don't like that 1st wee after transfer,started checking toilet paper already
Matthewsmum great to hear your little embie is deep inside snuggling in sorry your 1st embie didn't make it but at least no2 was a GO, goodluck in the TWW will be keeping an eye out to hear your news,
Alice Hi thanks for asking about me, I am ok guess I have to be, not so tearful anymore not much point crying now is there, got to drag myself back into the real world and get on with it, I should test today as its day 29 for me but can't be bothered just seeing one line again, so will just wait and see when AF decides to turn up anyday now, ( but I guess there is 1 % chance I am UTD ) but not enough for me to be excited about IYKWIM LOL,
Spoke to murraycod she not doing too well she cramping badly still, tried to make her relax a little but its understandable how she is feeling, so I think a big is in order to make her feel better !!!
Mildez not long now till your IVF gets the green light FX for you !
Ferrals sorry you got a BFN but hopefully your IVF is just around the corner for you and 2nd time lucky for you
will be watching and waiting for your news,
T-hopes sorry your having a bit of a downer with your friends pg and growing belly, we all feel the same so don't beat yourself up its normal to feel like that, hopefully not too much longer and its your belly they talking about.
AFM well just getting on with life with a little hope in my heart but trying really hard to not think about it too mucjh
its gods will I feel he will decide if I get anymore so hopefully he thinks I am worthy of 1 more and if not then I sure got a housefull already keeping me busy !!! Enjoy your day,
hi craftymummy-nice to see your avatar pop up,reality has a way of picking us back up ,doesn't it(kids to feed etc,etc)got my fingers crossed for you...murraycod-loads & loads of wishes,hugs & kisses,be waiting to read your good news tomorrow afternoon,is anyone going to the scan with you?...
ferrals - thats exactly what the chinese doc was saying!! Do you believe it?? Its just put such a negative spin on this month cause i was so happy being that they had removed my endo 3 weeks ago now im stressing that my body doesnt like his swimmers! Yeh she said to start using condoms again cause my body is to used to them!! WTF??! I was furious! Thanks Ferrals, you are like an encyclopedia!!
Alice - No cleaning for you huh??! I dont blame you, my house it a bomb and whats so embarressing is my MIL and her friend just dropped by unexpectedly and its a disgrace in here! She has never seen my house messy in the 10yrs I have been with DH! I was mortified, closed every door as we walked thru! EIK Thanks for the advice Alice - you are a gem!
Murraycod - I dont know if your lurking sweetheart but I wont you to know that Im praying for you and hope the cramping subsides and you see your healthy little one tomorrow! will be eagerly awaiting your post. xx
Reet - DH is on Menevit but we will swap to Spermax once this bottle has finished! Yeah ieven 1% improvement would be positive!! Really appreciate you replying!!
Saffy - your right, i have heard her opinion but I dont have to agree with it! You have all made me feel soooooo much better about it! I had been feeling really anxious (as per usual)!
Matthews mum and crafty - thanks for responding! I truly, truly dont know what i would do without your guidance! Thank you!
One of my g/f's has been doing ivf for about 9 mths after going thru 3 losses naturally. She found out a few weeks ago that she was UTD and she was obviously thrilled! She started having severe cramping and small amount of bleeding/spotting last Thursday, had her scan on Friday and everything is perfect! well better than perfect cause there is 2 of them in there!! Yep, twins!! Soooo happy for her! She is 6wks 5days! Just wanted to share that positive story with you! We all need to hear them!!!
Thanks again for all your feedback, you are all ace!!
T-Hopes-lol i am a research fanatic when i hear something or need to know something i want to know all there is to know about the subject does that make sense.
And yes actually i do believe it to a degree not entirely if there is an egg and sperm from only one male then you would think they would fertilise if they were both normal and healthy but when you read about and hear about couples having problems conceiving only to move on to other partners and have no problems it does make you wonder and why is it couples in a new relationships that seem to fall pregnant by accident on the pill ect and then 10 years later when ready for children are unable to fall pregnant when they are still young enough and look at all the ho dogs who r##t around and fall pregnant at the drop of a hat and don't know who the father is (maury povich lol) it doe's get you thinking is our bodys pre programed to go after the fittest and strongest sperm for good healthy DNA for the whole survival of the fittest like in the wild.
Well like i said i believe a little bit that has a part to play but what about all the genetic disorders that manage to sneak through and all the kids born with inherited disorders to me that is not survival of the fittest at all that is just the luck of the draw.
Mathew's mum - I'm glad your transfer went well sorry the first little embie didn't make it. I hope the TWW goes quickly with a great outcome.
Alice - sorry to hear about your SIL but the others are right we can't deny our feelings and we feel what we feel there's no right or wrong.
Porsche - good luck for tomorrows appointment.
Happybaby - sorry AF showed up, I can understand how it can be upsetting.
T Hopes - Thank you for sharing the lovely story about your friend I hope everything continues wonderfully for her.
Murry - Huge hugs babe we will all be hanging desperately to hear how you go.
Saffy - I agree it might be a good idea to find another counsellor. Does your fertility clinic have one? I saw the one at mine and she was awesome.
Crafty - so good to see you back on line.
Ferrals - So I guess its not that I have ****ty eggs. Your explanation makes perfect sense, as a lesbian my girl bits just don't see enough sperm to get bored of it. I wonder if you used condoms except when you are due to O if the egg would be more receptive? Just a thought. Sorry for the BFN I hope AF hurrys so you can catch the IVF train quickly.
AFM - Well had bt but asked to not know my numbers so she just left a message to say I'm definitely pg and I have to go for second one in a week. I then saw TCM guy (nearly threw up outside his office first!) He made me up several bags of very delicious looking twigs and sticks for me to stew into a yummy tea twice a day! About to have the first one soon sure it will be lovely! He also said to keep warm and stay off the cold drinks.
T-Hopes-No i wont test again i know i am not pregnant i knew a week ago that it didnt work but i still had that little glimmer of hope.
Mathewsmum-AF due today i am starting to feel little niggly period like pains so i think it will turn up tomorrow well i hope so anyway because i want to ring the clinic and see if i have made it on the list.
Sunbeam-good news on the bloods now we just need to keep you pregnant this time lets hope this little bub is all healthy and sticks around for the duration my fingers are crossed for you and i hope to join you real soon.
Murrycod-i will be at work when you post your results so i will check in the morning but i am thinking of you.
Crafty-how you doing has AF turned up if not have you weakened and POAS yet. You and i are cycle buddies and seem to get AF around the same time i really hope we get our BFP together because the odds for you and i are not real great so we have this uphill battle to fall pregnant and keep our babies so we have each other to get through this time together and i pray we get our wish.
AFM- No AF i really want it to show tomorrow that would be perfect timing around work ect. so everyone cross there fingers or do the AF dance and send all your AF vibes my way and pray the ivf list is not full.
Murraycod hope all is well with your scan ! thinking of you babe,
Ferrals well its a BFN for me too as if I didn't know that already !!! how dumb can I be !! oh well changed my lilypie to a few days longer as no sign of AF and no headache yet and I always get that a few days before she turns up so if she comes your ways send her over here when your done with her !!
sunbeam- sounds good xx
matthews mum hope tww flies and then your bfp xx
ferals- for the list (or no AF prior) xx
Alice- I rang the counsellor yesterday and it wa easier than I had thought, will investigate the private ivf counselling when we go on thurs for our group session
murrycod-hugs to you, you can do this, hang in there xx
Porsche -good luck for appt xx
Thopes- glad we all made you feel better! xx
Mildez- I did nightshift last night and looked after a woman who was trying for 3 years then found out she was UTD a week before their IVF appt, I made her rub me for good luck!! Maybe it was an omen?? (-clutching at straws here-) It could happen to us!!
AFM- had pos OPK yesterday, happy we managed to BD even with the disruption of night shift ( we don't see each other for 24hrs) so if I can force DH into one more go tonight I will be pleased we have BD sun, Mon and then Tues and maybe even Wed if I'm lucky for one last gasp for a BFP before IVF
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Thanks for the advice Alice - you are a gem!
does that make sense.
Your explanation makes perfect sense, as a lesbian my girl bits just don't see enough sperm to get bored of it. I wonder if you used condoms except when you are due to O if the egg would be more receptive? Just a thought. Sorry for the BFN I hope AF hurrys so you can catch the IVF train quickly.
About to have the first one soon sure it will be lovely! He also said to keep warm and stay off the cold drinks.
sounds good xx
hope tww flies and then your bfp xx
for the list (or no AF prior) xx
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