Sunbeam- I agree with TooManyShoes, that is so rude of your house mate to do something like that, I would be so cranky with her. How hard is it for some people to have a bit of common courtesy and say thank you but I have decided it's time to stand on my own 2 feet and could you please give me a ref. if I need one? How rude. I have been there before sunbeam so I know how you are feeling right now. Hence to say I have never had another room mate because of it.