Keli - maybe baby is a little microscope thing that you spit on and depending on the shapes that form within your saliva indicates whether you are about to O or not. To be honest, I didn't find maybe baby the most reliable out of my 'tool kit' and much preferred the OPKs I bought off ebay - much cheaper too as maybe baby is about $80 from the chemist.
And I so hear you about DH not being able to DTD when it counts the most. I never really wrote about it here, but since you've brought this topic up.... (tune out if you don't want TMI!) DH and I had lots of problems where he couldn't even get it up, not that he has problems any other time - only when it really mattered. It turned into a vicious cycle because he would beat himself up about it and get stressed, inevitably blame it on work occupying his mind or something I did (once I was breathing too heavily!!!) and then I'd be in tears. So there were quite a few cycles we missed DTD just before O because he couldn't perform. We had lots of deep and meaningfuls to try and resolve it, but cycle after cycle we'd have the same problem and it seemed like DTD at that time was mechanical and loveless. It was a chore that both of us kind of dreaded each month! So I don't know whether it was coincidence or not, but for the cycle we conceived, I had bought a Karma Sutra book to help inspire us (one with articles, not just the pictures!) and we gave massages, set the scene with candles etc and took it very slow. Anyway, for that cycle we 'made love' and now we're UTD (I actually think it had more to do with the laparoscopy and clomid, but it's nice to think the karma sutra helped as well!)
I guess we sometimes forget that the TTC journey can be just as hard and stressful for our partners and unlike us girls, they often don't have anyone to talk to about these things (or are too embarrassed to talk).
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