Luna,
Firstly sorry to hear about your angel babies, and your ectopic. I've just been through same, although I lost my tube.
Clomid doesn't work quite like that. It can stimulate follies on either side, but they can check which side the dominate follie is on and possibly cancel ovulation? I'm not sure if it works the same with clomid but they can do it with injectables. Can I ask if you are seeing a Fertility Specialist or a GP? If you are seeing a GP, I think you need more specialised help. I see an FS at Melbourne IVF, just get a referral from GP and book in. I see Kate Stern, but I've heard Fleur Cattrell is good too. Jump on the Melbourne IVF website and read their Bios.

TTC is hard enough, but not tructing in your Doc makes it worse. I did it for too long before I changed FS' and I'm so glad I did.
GL with everything.
Bec