LTTTC after Miscarriage and Loss

Hello everyone

Porche I know what you mean about OPK's not giving the result you want. I had a nearly + on Thursday and then definate - on Friday. It was back to + on Sat and lucky we were both at home so we could DTD.

Murraycod - glad everything has settled down for you and great news with the FSH level.

Sunbeam - I hope your IUI and home sem worked.

Ferrals - I find it's easy to plan TTC on a calendar but then it all changes with both our everday routines. Good luck for this month. seems there will be a few of us in the 2WW together.

Crafty - good luck with the FS appt

Trea & MattsMum - hope the FET goes well.

My last cycle which is when I started BBT and OPK seemed to go like clockwork. I had a the dip in temp before the opk+ and then the steady rise afterwards. But this cycle seems to be all over the place. I'm fairly confident that I O'd yesterday which is CD21. Good luck for everyone TTC and in 2WW.

HappyBaby

RANT ALERT

I can't even believe I'm having to write this it makes me sick in my stomach. I found out that a big part of our crap count on saturday was that Donor Daddy has not been taking his menavit for at least 10 days probably longer. I was at his house to do the insem and I asked to see what he's taking to see if I could think of anything else we might add, guess what, NO Menavit. He had told me the previous weekend that he'd run out on the thursday before (though I already suspected he'd run out a while before that). He proceeded to lie to me and tell me they were at work but I could so easily tell it was not the truth, there was every classic lie indicator in the book. (I'm a trained psychologist does he really think I could not tell?)

I'm not sure what I am more s#$ty about the fact that he lied or the fact that he has potentially wasted out last IUI cycle through sheer stupidity and laziness.

How f@#king hard is it to buy and swallow a frigging pill each day, it's not like I'm asking him to inject himself in the stomach with friggin hormones!!!!! He's a friggin moron :wall:

I did consider meeting him at his work this morning and demanding to see the pills but I figured it would solve nothing other than to make him look like more of an idiot.

Happy Baby
Sorry your cycle is not doing what it should. Mine used to do that, great one cycle and all over the place the next but those were usually cycles where I did not O. I hope you have O'ed. Good luck

Hi all
I am still here checking every day on how your all going ! I have my apt in 10days but am ovulating around today or tomoro so wonder if I will be catching that egg but won't be able to cancel just incase I missed it again, lets face it the chances of me missing it are far greater than my chances of catching it !!! well will go anyway maybe test in the morning but will only be 9 to 10 days past ovulation. My DH has told me he thinks we can do it by ourselves by DEC but my argument is if not then in DEC I will have wasted 6 more months and be nearly 46 men they don't understand how hard it is . He thinks because we always managed in the past we will again now but I keep trying to tell him at my age its unlikely we ovulate regulaly like talking to a brick wall !

sorry sunbeam you have been let down buy your donor I know its not much to ask of him but thats how men are I have to put DHs tablets out every morning and make his tea to make sure he takes them or else well the same story as you I think !
Thats men for you !!

Well been clearing out and packing and more packing ! got all my baby stuff here and just wondering if I should get rid or go through it and save the very best stuff and the pram and cot !!! If only I had a chrystal Ball to let me have a look and see if I will ever get UTD again !!!!

Well busy bdancing last night and thurs night and will do again tomoro and thats it I will be in the TWW. Did the best we could again to catch the egg but wondering if there is one there at all !

Murray how you doing ?

Ferrals looks like we ovulating around the same time again !!! we have to get this right this is just too much month after month !!!! and sunbeam you too looks like a busy TWW for us all lets keep each other company and hope it flys by !!!

Sunbeam-don't fret sperm is produced 70-90 days before they use it so any sperm he gave the other day at the clinic would have been made almost 3 months ago so tell him to get back on it or better still there is a new sperm max on the market my DH is on it and it has more goodies in it one being COQ10 which is recommended for egg and sperm quality and a few different types of gingseng and the also the same things in menevit like seleneum and zinc ect.

Crafty-Yep we will be tww buddies again i had a bit of a LH surge last night the line was darker than the E2 line but today the line is super dark and the E2 line is not visable which means peak on my CBFM so we BD yesterday might i add because we were in the mood and wanted to and then we were at it again today those macca tablet's phew! get us going more than normal and we are pretty good without the tablets but good god we cant keep our hands off each other and we will get another go tomorrow then we are in the tww i am feeling some niggling in my lower right abdomen which is the ovary i am going to ovulate from with that big follie so i think i will O in the morning some time.
And don't get rid of the baby stuff just yet we are packing too and i looked at it and thought do i get rid of it and then murphy's law will provail and we will get pregnant and have to buy it all again or keep it and drag it all with us and i thought it is all brand new stuff Abbi didn't get to wear so i will keep it and if i don't get pregnant i know of a good friend i would like to give some of her things to when she has her baby.
Come on crafty we have to do it right this month i have had enough waiting so this is our month our babies will be due in march i worked out my dates for the 2nd of march exactly one month before my 37th Bday and 18 days before Abbi's 2nd Bday.

Trea - good luck with your FET - keep us posted!! Exciting, hope all goes smoothly and we can celebrate your BFP with you very soon!
MatthewsMum - Hello and hugs to you too! Just wondering if you could request a scan just to give you some peace of mind? I so hope this cycle is the one for you - let us know how your blood tests go. I'll be holding my breath for you and so looking forward to some happy news for you x
Porsche, Sevie, Mildez - how are you lovely ladies? What's happening with you all?
Sunbeam - you're in the TWW now - hope it goes quick and you get your BFP.
MurryCod - how are you? How are your furbabies??
Ferrals - hope you caught that egg - so you and Sunbeam are in the TWW together?
Crafty - what about you?

Sorry to miss anyone.

OK so call me paranoid, but how is this: when I was growing up I had two girls living next door then up the street my "bestest truest friend" :) and her cousin. I have found out through them contacting me on FB that of the five of us, four of us have fertility problems - four of us have done IVF, two successfully but with a lot of trouble and two of us unsuccessfully. Now is it just me or did we come into contact with something as kids that has caused us problems? That can't be normal? Oh and two of us have had endometriosis. I know there is nothing we can do about it now but I just find that weird.

Doh - missed a whole page! Catching up now..

Sorry 'bout that! Didn't realise there were more.

Sunbeam - aggghhh - it doesn't seem like much to ask, does it? Especially with all the crap you have to go through. Sorry he let you down but Ferrals is right about that 'cause that's what the FS told us too. Still, I completely understand why you are so ****ed about it. x

HappyBaby - hi and sorry your cycles are a bit haywire. I've been temping again for the past few months and I definitely have one cycle that goes better than the other (but I know one of my ovaries has given up the ghost so that explains it). Good luck this month

So Ferrals, Sunbeam, Crafty and HappyBaby - good luck with your TWW and here's to celebrating with you soon:crossfingers::goodluck::pray:

Crafty I think Ferrals is right - it'll be Murphy's law that you'll give it away then you'll need it again so what's one more box? Or a few more boxes? You can always sort through it later. I agree with you not to wait until Dec although I love your DH's positive attitude! He sounds like my DH - always so optimistic, we need it!

Hi Ladies

Crafty I agree with Ferrals don't give it way just yet. it will be Murphy's law lol.

Sunbeam Grr What a frustrating thing to find out. We don't ask much do we. My DH takes Goji berries, zink, Alovera juice, pumpkin seeds & folate so I think in your case 1 little pill isn't too much to ask.

Alice OMG what a coincidence. What are the odds of that? How bizar. I don't know anyone who has fertility dramas so no one understands. I guess now you'll have a bigger support network?

Not much happening here. I haven't O'd yet. Have no idea what's going on. I'm guessing I'll O late now. Gosh my body is just so messed up right now. I've still got the wretched brown spotting and quite frankly it is driving me insane. Not because we can't DTD but because I'm so over it IYKWIM.

We have our nurse coordinator appointment Friday 18th to go through IVF and then our appointment with Dr De Ambrosis the following Tuesday to get our IVF schedule. This cycle can't go quick enough. I just want to move on now.

I wrote a huge long post and because BB logs you out if you take to long which P#SSES me off i lost the lot i usually copy my post in case i get logged out i can paste it but this time it didnt work.

Anyway i couldnt be bothered to do it all over again i am off to work i just wanted to say i am finally in the tww egg popped this morning a lot of right sided cramping consistant with U/S and CBFM we BD SUN MON and this morning and will get one in for safety measures tomorrow but i really hope this month works so i can avoid IVF.
I am sad seeing all the familiar faces in the pregnancy threads they were in the M/C thread with me and they have all moved on some are even in the parenting threads it's been to long and about time i moved on out of here.

Hope everyone is well and hanging in there we will do this all of us.

Ferrals - FX that you caught the eggy this month...hope the TWW flies by xoxox

Hi Lovelies,

Thank you all for your support about the donor daddy thing. I guess as a lesbian I thought I was beyond having to deal with male stupidity.....I was wrong!!! Any way I have enlisted the help of donor daddy's partner (who is a really lovely, responsible guy) to get the pills and make sure Dumb Bum takes them.

Ferrlas - I do understnd that the spermies would have been made a while ago but that maybe if he'd been bothering to take his pills we might have a few million more. I'm still hopeful one or two strong ones would have made it.

Porsche - sorry there's still no sign of your eggie. Only 10 days till your appt. with FS so not too long. Isn't waiting all we seem to do?

Crafty - I don't know about the baby stuff. I personally feel better having it out of my house. Anyway this will be your last bub so you deserve all new things. How cool would it be if you go to your FS appt only to fine out from your blood work that you are UTD :p

Alice - That is wierd about you and your friends all having fertility probs. Who knows what might have caused it. Of the 5 of us in my Uni house 3 of us (that I know of) have had fertility issues.

I totally agree Ferrals not many of us left in here since last sept when I joined and you been on here before me !!!
Don't seem fair makes you wonder what your doing wrong or rather what they did different to me !

I been trying to stay positive this month but its not working I really feel like every time we DTD its just a waste of time and energy and the Macca well not working for me in the right way lucky for you its working well ! I think my problem is I am trying too hard and I have to stop feeling so hopeless I seriously think I need to forget about being a mum again I can't carry on with my life feeling so damn sad inside and living on hope ! My FS apt is next week and quite frankly I think I am going to cancel as when it comes down to it you need money to get some help and we just don't have enough for IVF we spent over 40,000 dollars in the last 2yrs getting a visa and flights and moving over to Australia to make a new start for our kids and well we managed to get a deposit for the house but thats it now we have a mortgage to pay in a few weeks that I know is more than my rent so really can't see the point in going to the apt knowing I can't take it any further !

Sorry I am so negative its not like me but I feel so defeated !

Ferrals, I understand you wanting to join them - hope you can really really soon. Sounds like you covered all your bases for this month so here's hoping this TWW is over quickly and with a BFP at the end. It's mixed feelings for me of being thrilled for them but missing them at the same time and I have only been on BB since Feb.

Sunbeam - maybe not so unusual after all? I guess there is no point dwelling on it and there does seem to be more problems now but maybe we also talk more about it now, I dunno. Glad DD's partner is helping out with the pills and good luck with this TWW too.

Hi Iona! How's it going?

Porsche, you and Crafty will be having your FS appointments at the same time. I know the feeling of just wanting to start - going a bit batty here at the moment (three hours into cleaning my house...)

Love to everyone x

Crafty, we posted at the same time.

I know this is awful, and I know what it is like to live with that sadness and feeling like you just want to get on with you life, but I really believe you can do it! You can!! Don't give up!!! It's always when you think things will NEVER change that they do. I understand you must feel very stressed with the move and I understand the financial burden of IVF too so I can't say anything there as only you know how things are in that regard but you have nothing to loose by going to your appointment - at least get a professional opinion before you give up eh? Come on lovely Crafty, my SIL is into her second IVF and she is 45 now so if she can do it, so can you xxxxooo

Ferrals it stinks doesn't it that almost everyone has moved on into belly or baby groups. I have been in m/c thread since May09 and I think in the 12month plus group now longer then everyone else. Somtimes it feels like unless I leav I'll never get out of that group.

Crafty I agree with with Alice on the FS appointment. You have nothing to loose going and seeing him anyhow even if you don't want to head down the IVF path. Maybe some clomid will make you O more eggs and increase the chances. Just a thought but I don't really know what I am talking about.

Me just waiting for AF CD28 definately coming sooner or later and then waiting for my appointment. 30days today I see him and start the paperwork etc for IVF. Just need to start exercising. Got 4weeks to go so should make the most of it.

Alice - I'm doing ok, just nearing the end of the TWW!! So will see in the next few days

Mildez - hope AF arrives for you soon

hi to everyone ekse